“Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There’s still time to change the road you’re on
And it makes me wonder” Stairway to Heaven
I hear this often from a lot of clients:
“I can’t change my career path…it’s too late for that!”
“I can’t change! It’s too late now!”
“I can’t get married anymore, I’m too old marriage!”
“Our relationship cannot change. It’s too late!”
Then why do you even come for therapy?
If you feel it’s too late, then accept your fate and learn to like it! If not, change your fate!
When we see a beautiful image on Facebook with a quote that reads “It’s never too late to change who you are!”, we immediately click like, share it to the world, and feel smug about it. But when it comes to our own lives we always have the excuse “It’s too late!”
We all know it’s never too late. We are so comfortable in our uncomfortable and fearful existence that we do not want to come out of it. Hence the excuse ‘it’s too late’.
Remember, the day you said ‘it’s too late’ is the day you decided shirk responsibility for your issues. You just want to stay where you are because it gives you the perfect opportunity to grumble, snort, sneer, cry, complain, and be miserable. You both like where you are and are too much of a coward to change who you are.
Every moment in life is a perfect opportunity for change and in fact, life makes sure you keep getting opportunities one after the other after the other just to help you change. But as the old saying goes, you can take a horse to the lake but you cannot make it drink, the decision to take action is yours!
I have had a client in his late 60’s who was ready to dig up and deal with childhood issues and gave up his 40 year old addiction of tobacco chewing. I have also had a 25 year old client who told me it was too late to learn to deal with his colleagues in office and walked out of my room and six months later he hung himself to death!
Choose where you want to be! Now is a perfect opportunity to change!
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