The trick of our subconscious to lure us into arguments with it and how to get out of such situations.
We all experience certain negative emotions that are difficult to control or remove. It is true, probably, that we can never be entirely free of our anger, envy, jealousy, fear, and other negative emotions. However, for some people some of these negative emotions become too much of a problem. For instance, some people seem to be inherently jealous of everyone. Some are always fearful. Some are very short tempered. Each of these person faces a tough time in controlling these emotions.
One of the reasons these are difficult to control is because our subconscious mind plays a trick on us. I call it the Mind Drama. Remember the times when you had an emotional internal argument with yourself? One part of you would want to control the negative emotion while the other part of the mind keeps giving arguments to support your negative emotion. This is mind drama – a dramatic conversation that you run with your subconscious.
For instance, you hear a friend of yours has been promoted. You suddenly start feeling jealous and insecure. A part of your mind keeps giving reasons why your friend does not deserve that promotion or it keeps comparing you with your friend and says you are better than him and so on. You try to negate these thoughts by arguing with that part of the mind. No matter how the argument ends you only succeed in suppressing those emotions for the time being.
The trick that the subconscious plays here is luring us into the argument, because no matter what is the outcome of the argument, the subconscious wins. It has won the moment you began arguing with your subconscious.
You may ask why does our subconscious throw up these emotions in us or support it. The answer is that the emotions are coming up because of some root belief and the subconscious supports it because it cannot discriminate what is right or wrong. It just makes true the belief. In the above example, the person could be jealous because of some security issues in past where they formed a limiting belief about their progress or capacity. Hence they see everybody else’s progress as a threat to their growth.
So what is the solution for this Mind Drama?
Simple, don’t get into one! Just refuse to let your subconscious pull you into the argument. And if you suddenly find yourself in a Mind Drama, simply get out of it.
Understand the subconscious will try everything to tempt you into the Mind Drama. It will bring up the most provocative arguments and juicy imagination. Just remain firm. And keep getting out of the dramas whenever you find yourself already into it.
By getting out of them consistently, you slowly gain control over your subconscious in that area and it starts co-operating with you. You will also be clear on your core issue instead of being misled into petty issues. You will have more time to focus on finding and resolving your core beliefs.
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