There come many opportunities in a person’s life when they can choose to follow their hearts or continue living in fears and insecurities of the mind. We (Geetha and I) have passed through quite a few and perhaps there lie a few more ahead of us. Most of the times, our choice was of the heart but once in a while we let our fears cloud us and keep us in the same of loop of suffering. We are once more at one such juncture in our lives.
This time the choice was unhesitating and simultaneous for both of us. Now, we’ve both come to a clear realization that further and truer healing cannot happen with conventional therapy but rather through a deeper introspection and awareness. And stepping into pure present moment awareness means we cannot avoid stepping into the unknown that follows it immediately. And to do that we realized we simply have to put in more faith into the life within and trust it to take care of us. And we are doing that. We are going away together to explore and experiment in deeper and truer healing. And, as usual with our lives so far, the experiment is first on us. We didn’t have to go away to let this healing happen, but the moment the realization to heal deeper came for us the universe opened doors for a perfect space to heal!
As a result, we are both taking a long sabbatical and we are closing Purple Room Healing for the public. The leave is for at least six months. The blog and all its articles will still be available for you all. We are also opening a site and another blog to share our onward (and inward) journey and to write about the practice of awareness. We will announce them here soon once we have made the physical transition to our new home and personal healing space.
Thank you all clients and friends who made this journey with us. We learnt a lot from each of you and we hope each of you had equally benefited through the help we could extend.
“The only freedom we’ve got is not to react to anything, but to turn within and know the truth.” – Robert Adams
When people are in any kind of a relationship they start bonding to each other through energetic cords. Think of them as tubes of various sorts connecting one another. There are basically two kinds of cords. Soul level cords – these are cords of love and they cannot be cut. These are soul level connections which share just love between each other. They do not harm the person. The second kind of cords are personality or karmic cords – these are cords that can exert unnecessary influence on each other. They are formed willingly albeit subconsciously. They are formed out of repeated behaviour by the people in relationship or through one major emotional event. For instance, a mother who routinely blames a son for not being good to her and the son allowing those accusations to feed his guilt, forms a cord and the mother could (consciously or unconsciously) use it to manipulate her son. They are also called Karmic cords because they can indicate karmic debts coming from the past.
Each person can have any number of such cords in one relationship itself. Even with the relationship continuing, it is essential to cut these cords because they will make the relationship healthier. It is all the more important that cord cutting is done when the relationship ends.
Benefits of Cord Cutting
Cord cutting improves any relationship. It clears up unhealthy habits between people and helps them form healthier habits in the relationship.
Cord cutting can be done to improve any relationship – parent child, life partners, lovers, past relationships, ex boyfriend girlfriends, friends, sibling, boss subordinate, colleagues, classmates, teacher student, and any other relationships.
It heals you tremendously. You find a huge relief from the emotions you’ve been carrying because of the relationship.
You release a lot of pent up negative emotions that you have been suppressing and carrying around for sometime. Some times, it also releases emotions held up over years.
It clears blocks in relationship issue, especially in your love life. When single people go through many relationship issues in the past they form unconscious blocks and fears about life partners in their life and they start acting out of these fears from the past. This tends to ruin any good future relationship they can potentially form.
It helps you identify hidden motivations in relationships both within self and in others.
Cord cutting gives you the ‘breathing space’ you need. Your behaviour is no longer automatic or compulsive. You will find that you can now change your behaviour easily.
Procedure for Cord Cutting:
It takes about 20-30 min sometimes, so make sure nobody disturbs you for so long. Don’t do this after dark.
Step1 – Relaxation and Creating inner awareness.
Sit or lie down in some quiet place. Focus on your natural breathing.
Now slowly start deep breathing with your focus on your lower lungs and abdomen. Take ten deep breaths.
Follow that by 15 short rapid breaths. These breaths are quick, shallow, and without pause.
Observe the breathing come back to normal breathing.
Step 2 – Activating subconscious and Shielding
Now visualize yourself in a serene, beautiful garden. Make sure the garden has a water body in it like a lake, fountain, stream, beach, or a waterfall.
Take time to create the garden completely in your visualization. See the blue sky, trees, birds, flowers, fruits, grass – just take time to ‘feel’ the place.
Now imagine sitting in a calm space in the garden.
Imagine a bright beautiful golden yellow or white light in the sky directly above you coming down, and touching the top of your head.
Let the light enter your body through the top of your head and fill your entire body till the tip of your toes with this bright, beautiful, vibrant, tingling light.
See the light expanding into a bubble of protection all around you including under you.
Step 3 – Locating the ‘Feeling Centers’
Now call the person you want to cut cords with into the garden. See the person clearly coming into the garden and standing before you.
Notice your first feelings about her/him – all of them – both negative as well as positive.
Now observe where each of these feelings is beginning in your body. (Ask yourself ‘If this feeling was stored in my body physically, where would it be?’)
You will find that each feeling has a place in your body (like, for instance, hurt stored in your heart center, etc)
Give each feeling a color and a shape – whatever you feel like. (you can ask ‘If this feeling had a color and a shape what would it be like?’)
For instance, you may see hurt as dirty green ball in your heart center, you may see anger as a red monster attached to you at solar plexus, or you may notice helplessness as blobs of yellow on your hand – these are just examples. You can give any color and shape you feel like. Sometimes the moment you trace the feeling to place in the body you may instantly perceive it as some object or being.
Step 4 – Scanning and Locating Cords
Now visualize the other person also also in a beam of their own light from the sky and with their own bubble of protection.
Start ‘scanning’ the person from top of his/her head. Your intention is to look for personality or karmic cords of energies that connect both of you.
You may ‘see’ or ‘feel’ these cords.
When you see the first cord, make a note of where on his/her body is the cord beginning, follow that cord to see where in your body the cord is penetrating.
Now take time to notice the details of the cord – its thickness, what does it look like, is it brittle or flexible, all the details that strike you.
Now see if the energy flow in the cord is one way or both ways – that is, is this cord feeding energy from one person to another only, or is this cord used by both to cross feed each other.
You may remember some past events when you are doing this, you may find certain emotions coming up sometimes. If that happens, just make a note of it.
Locate all cords between you and the other person.
You may notice many cords are end or begin at ‘feeling centers’ that you located earlier.
Step 5 – Cutting Cords
Once you have located all cords between you and the other person, you proceed with energy negotiation and cord cutting.
Move to the first cord you found.
If the energy is coming from her/him to you, ask yourself if you still feel a need to accept that energy or emotion from her/him. Only when your answer is a firm no can you really cut the cord. Otherwise, it means you are not yet ready to cut the cords. Even if you attempt it, in such a case, the cord will reconnect itself back.
When the answer is a firm no, you should see the flow of energy coming from her/him through the cord stopping immediately.
Now tell her/him that she/he needs to stop sending that energy to you. Tell her/him that your karma to accept those energies is complete and any energy she/he continues to send, if it bounces back to her/him, then it is of no karmic consequence to you since you have no intention of affecting her/him. It is her/him own doing.
If the energy is going outwards from you, ask yourself what emotion or influence from you is feeding that person. You will instantly get an answer. You may again remember an event of the past or a particular emotion coming up strongly within.
Ask yourself, if you are ready to let go of the need to influence the other person with these energies of yours. The answer should be no again. If the answer is yes or if you feel hesitant, look back at the suffering you are undergoing for still being connected to her/him. This can convince you to let go.
Once again, when you answer with a firm no, you will see the energy flow from you to the other person stopping instantly.
If the energy flow is two way, then you will naturally do all the above steps.
Only when you see the energy flow stopping, will you proceed to cut the cords.
There are a few ways to cut the cords. You should choose whichever feels right for each cord. I am listing couple of methods here. You may intuitively feel other creative ways to remove the cord connection.
You can request a sword or shears (large garden scissors!) made of light to cut the cords. You will find the requested tool coming to you from the light above.
Use it to cut the cord as close to your body as possible.
Now request for a ball of light and you will find a small ball (about the size of an apple) coming from the light above.
Rub that ball at the place on your body where you have cut the cord.
Notice this light sealing off the ‘hole’ left behind on your body after cutting the cord.
Proceed to do the same steps with the other person in cutting the same cord. So you will cut that cord from the other end by the same procedure above.
Yes, you need to cut the cord from the other person’s end too no matter how much you dislike the other person. You do this because the cord that is cut needs to be destroyed.
If the other person feels the need for the same cord, they will form another with somebody else but not you.
This also helps you get rid of cords of resentment easily. For anger and resentment are also means of attachments.
Cleanse and seal their body with the ball of light.
Destroy the cord by burning it. See the smoke and ashes pulled up into the sky through a third beam of light. This is not the beams of light that is on your or on her.
Proceed to cut all the remaining cords similarly.
Here you uproot the cord out of the body instead of cutting it. That’s the only difference.
This is done if you feel any particular cord has ‘grown into you’ and has roots within.
Hold the cord with both the hands as close to the body as you can.
Visualize white light forming around the roots of the cords within so they help to ‘slide the roots out’.
Pull the cord out of the body slowly.
Notice the roots sliding out gently. Pull until the cord is uprooted completely.
If any roots are broken and left within the body, request the light above you to dissolve the root completely and flush it out of your either into the ground below or by sucking it up into the light.
Follow the cleansing and sealing with the ball of light as described in Method 1 above.
Do the same for the other person.
Destroy the cord by burning it. See the smoke and ashes pulled up into the sky through a third beam of light. This is not the beams of light that is on your or on her.
Proceed to cut all the remaining cords similarly.
Step 6 – Finding Hidden Cords
When people send psychic energies out of, conscious or unconscious, malevolent intent or a desperate need to cling, such cords may not show up in the regular scan.
Just to make sure there are no such hidden cords, visualize a beam of violet light falling in between you and other person you want to cut cords with.
Visualize this light expanding outwards towards you on one side, and him/her on the other until finally you both are under this huge beam of violet light.
Any hidden cords will instantly show up in this violet light.
Go ahead and follow the usual procedure to identify, describe, stop the energy flows, and cut these cords too.
Step 7 – Healing ‘Feeling Centers’ and Leftover Energies
This is an important step. You will be healing the ‘Feeling Centers’ that you located earlier as well as any energy you may have already absorbed through the cords into you before they were cut. As I said, many cords would enter your body at the ‘feeling centers’.
After you cut the cords, go back to the place where the first cord was and ask yourself if any energies that you may have absorbed (through the cord before it was cut) is still within you.
If there are any left, give those energies a colour and shape just like you did for the ‘feeling centers’ earlier. You are creating a visual form for the energies. Sometimes you may intuitively feel the form readily.
Ask the light above to dissolve this energy and cleanse it out of you.
You may notice the light dissolving the energy into smoke and sucking it up into the sky.
Continue healing all the leftover energies for all the cords you cut.
Now go to the remaining ‘feeling centers’ and do the same.
If you find it difficult to heal any remaining ‘feeling centers’, then it means you still want to hold on to that emotion you feel there. Try to see various viewpoints as to why it is good for you to let go of that emotion. Only when your intention to let go is firm, can you fully heal.
Step 7 – Final Shielding
Ask the other person you cut cords with to go away and live his/her life peacefully. See him/her leave the garden.
Connect fully with the light above. See it flowing into you through the top of your head. Absorb the light fully into your every pore and aspect of being.
Request the light to do a final clean up to remove all leftover fragments and pieces of energies which may have been overlooked or left behind.
Request the light to ‘fill up’ all the empty spaces where the ‘feeling center’ energies or leftover energies had been.
Feel the energy of the light filling your whole being. You may get a tingling sensation while this happens.
Now visualize this light expanding around you again into a ball of powerful shielding. It should expand at least three feet away from you in all directions including under you.
Spend about a minute of awareness on this beautiful and peaceful ball of light.
Take a deep breath. Open your eyes.
Exercise to follow post Cord Cutting
Do this exercise the next 21 days after the cord cutting is done.
Visualizing a ball of light around you at least three times a day. Those visualizations need not be as strong as they were when you did the cord cutting meditation. But nevertheless, just do it. This will strengthen your aura and increase your protection.
Sometimes we notice people you cut cords with suddenly try to contact you within 48 hours of cord cutting. Even people who you have had lost touch with too. If such a thing happens in the next 48 hours after cord cutting, keep away from showing any sympathy or empathy towards the person or his/her plight. It is sometimes seen that the person you cut cords with will feel a ‘pull’ to connect back those cords and they try that, unconsciously of course, through appealing to the emotions of the person who cut the cords.
Forming new cords is as easy as cutting cords. Cord cutting clears up negative energy within. But it is now up to you to replace that space with positive thoughts, and behaviour patterns. Otherwise cords reform easily.
What it means is that after cord cutting, your behaviour in that relationship is no longer programmed, or out of control, or habitual. You have control over your responses and you must choose a positive response now to replace the old one.
Examine your needs which made gave you the fears and unhealthy behaviour in the first place. Every relationship is based out of a need to fulfil some internal lack. That lack is always related to self-image. Ask yourself what impulses or lacks motivated you to seek such unhealthy relationship or behaviour in the past. Start working that lack instead of seeking to fulfil from outside.
We hope this article will come in useful on your self-healing journey. You can always find this article from our archives by clicking on the ‘Self Help’ tag or category.
Every building and the land has its own past and energy levels. I am not speaking of Vaastu or Feng Shui. By energy levels I mean how the house or place can affect your emotional state through its own, for the lack of a better word, vibrations. I am also speaking of spirit energies attached to a place or house.
Yes, it might sound strange, or even incredible, but check it out. Don’t you find some places inherently creepy no matter what time of the day you go there? Have you ever noticed that your temper and other emotions tend to increase in particular rooms in your own space or others’? Of course, some cases may be due to personal psychological triggers related to that particular space. Like if you had entertained negative thoughts repeatedly in a specific room or corner in your house then soon you will be habituated to think negatively whenever you are in that same spot.
But if others around you too have similar emotional highs in the same rooms and, in some cases, even visitors to your house tend to exhibit fear or trepidation in the same places in your house then it obviously has something to do with the space itself.
Most often they won’t be something that warrants a change of house itself. A simple cleansing of that space and house (or business office) will help clear and cleanse the energies. House cleansing through Hypnotherapy is one such technique. It’s a very simple and one of the safest methods to cleanse. In this, the cleansing is not even required to be done from inside the house, though the follow-up maintenance is always done at the place.
Effects of Energy Attachments to a Place
The most obvious effect is its influence on the emotions and relationships of the people residing in that space. The negative thought-forms subtly (or sometimes severely) influence the emotional state of the people in that space and over time the influence becomes stronger and quicker. Relationships can become strained due to such influences. In case of spirit attachments, the effects cannot be predicted because they largely depend on the past and intention of the spirits and soul fragments.
The other area of influence seems to be on the health of the family members. The spirit energies or thought-forms can affect the natural health and balance of people and make them vulnerable to various ailments.
In some cases, finances of the family seem to decline due to energy attachment in house.
One other common case is that of the soul fragment trying to evict the people from that space. It usually is done by spirits of people who owned or lived in that house earlier. The influence of the spirit attachment in these cases could be deliberate or unintentional. The spirit cannot rest until the house is empty again.
Another common effect is fear due to direct perception of the spirits themselves. The presence of spirit(s) is felt by most of the family members in various situations. In some cases, some members have also described to me the appearance of the spirit form. But most often it is presence as a vague form through their peripheral vision and the experience is shared by others in the family too. They see forms walking past in the hallway, in the toilets, etc.
House Cleansing through Hypnosis
House cleansing is a simple yet effective and safer method of cleansing a space or land of these energies. The client is usually someone who lives or owns the place. The session is performed at the therapy center itself but the results are extremely quick and apparent.
Maintenance of the Cleansed Space: Your Responsibility
Cleansing a space will certainly get rid of negative space energies. But it is the maintenance of the space after cleansing that is important to keep the space from picking up further negative energies. This is a part that the people who live in the house need to take up and practice. The processes of maintenance are simple enough and there are many ways. But the consistency is important.
Think of it this way. A person with malaria goes to a physician for treatment. House Cleansing done with the therapist is similar to a physician treating a patient for malaria. But that does not guarantee the person will not get the same disease again the next year. This is where the physician prescribes precautions like using mosquito repellents, clearing stagnant waters in and around the house, etc. These cannot be done by the physician. Similarly the householders need to take up the maintenance so that the house energy levels are maintained well. As I said, the process itself is easy and simple. It just demands some consistency, that is all.
At Purple Room, we are now offering distance healing for cases of Spirit Release Therapy. Distance healing is a method of healing where the client is not physically present for healing. Although it is possible to treat many issues through distance healing, we are currently offering healing only in the cases of spirit attachments.
In my practise of past life regressions, I have sometimes come across spirits that come during the sessions to seek forgiveness from my clients. In all of these cases, the spirits had not been attached to my client previously. They usually come when the client visits the relevant past life and they ask for forgiveness for their behaviour in the past.
In one such case, the client recollected a past life where he was a princely heir of a European line of kings. He saw himself being stabbed to death by his wife. Immediately after he visited the past life, he found himself face to face with the spirit of his former wife. The client was quite disconcerted but the woman simply said she had come for forgiveness which my client readily did. She said she still desired to be his wife in a future incarnation and that she would wait for him in the light. She left to the light afterward that.
There are times when the client starts spontaneously recalling a past life the moment he is under hypnosis. Usually this happens when the subconscious of the client has an important problem to be resolved immediately. But in one such case, it was not the client’s subconscious that ‘threw’ up the memory of a past life but it was a spirit. The client in this case was taken to a traumatic past life where he had been violently hacked to death. The client could only see fragments of the past. He had been a poor kid living in a slum and all the client could remember was the violent death and the face of the perpetrator – a cruel looking man in his forties.
I moved the client away from the past life because he was obviously experiencing the trauma once more. Immediately client saw himself facing the spirit of the cruel looking man. The spirit carried a sword in his hand. It was the same sword that the man had used to hack the child to death. My client became so upset and angry that I had to bring him out of the session without releasing the spirit of the cruel man.
But that night my client dreamt of the cruel man and it was quite disturbing for him. The client fixed an immediate appointment with me the next day. I explained to him that it is important to release spirit attachments once they show themselves and the dreams had been because the spirit of the cruel man had not been released. My client agreed reluctantly to talk to the spirit.
I induced hypnosis and directed the client into a guided imagery session. He pictured entering the garden he had visited in an earlier session. There he found the cruel man waiting for my client. Initially the client reacted angrily and started challenging the spirit. Challenge could lead to flaring of egos and the case could only get unnecessarily complicated. I reasoned with my client. He calmed down and asked the cruel man what he wanted. The man immediately threw his sword down and begged for forgiveness. He told my client that he had suffered much due to his guilt and regret over his ghastly deed.
My client was reluctant to forgive the man. Usually most clients readily forgive or let go of past life issues and attachments. But in this case, my client had become upset over the brutality of the murder and was still sore over it.
I asked my client to call upon his spirit guides. He saw Jesus and another guide come into the garden. My client asked for their advice but they said they are leaving the decision entirely to my client. They said they would be okay with any decision my client made. Obviously it was time for my client to learn through his own thought. It is incidents like these that evolve most of the clients to a whole new level of maturity and spiritual growth.
After much thought my client decided to forgive the cruel man and he did it willingly. Not surprisingly, my client felt emotionally relieved on forgiving the cruel man. We helped the man go into the light after that.
Some spirits or earth-bound souls are attached to a person over lifetimes. Some could be as old as many centuries. Spirit Release Therapy is a safe and efficient means to identify spirit attachments and release them from the client.
Some spirits remain attached to a person across lifetimes. Usually these spirits have some strong connection with the client and are not stray attachments. In one case of a young man of 25, he had a female spirit that was attached to him since three lifetimes. The spirit had been his wife in a past life and had got attached to my client soon after her death in that lifetime. The spirit refused to leave my client initially. She had become extremely jealous of the client’s relationship with his girlfriend and had often been responsible for many quarrels and arguments of the client with his girlfriend. It must be understood that, in most cases of spirit attachment, the core issue always stems from the clients themselves. The spirits only aggravate the issues. In this case too, the client had a history of impulsive and argumentative behaviour which he had worked upon in the subsequent sessions with me. After much persuasion, the spirit agreed to leave the client and go to the light. The client was much relieved after that and the impulse to argue on silly matters had come down considerably.
Similarly, it is very common for clients to find attachments of family members from the past – sister, mother, father, children, etc.
In another case, the spirit was attached to my client since fifteen hundred years. The client had been a cruel Empress of an oriental state and had overseen live burials those who rebelled or opposed her. The spirit was that of a man who was buried alive along with his family. The family had moved to light but the man had refused. He was attached to my client with an intention to make her suffer. Cases of spirits attaching themselves to humans with a motive of revenge are uncommon but not unheard of altogether. The man was deaf to all our arguments and refused to leave. In fact, he even refused to give the reasons for his motives. He just kept repeating he wanted my client to suffer. It was through other means that we had to see the lifetime of the Empress. It was only after calling upon the man’s wife from the light did the man begin to loosen up. Initially he was angry at his wife also for leaving into the light. But she finally managed to convince him to leave with her. There had to be a forgiveness session done before he could leave my client and go into the light.
Sometimes there is more than one spirit attachment stemming from a past lifetime. In some extreme cases, clients carry large groups of spirits across lifetimes. In the case of a client, he had been an army commander in a past lifetime leading a group of soldiers. The entire troop was killed by the enemy army in the war. The army commander had felt so responsible for his troop that he had since carried them in his auric space over lifetimes. In another similar case, the client was carrying thousands of soldiers from an ancient tribal lifetime where he had been the tribal chief of a kingdom. The kingdom had lost the war with a neighbouring kingdom and the entire army was wiped out.
It is important to understand that it is not the number of spirit or entity attachments that determine the strength of influence upon the client but it is the relationship and the motive of the attachment that matters. In all of the above cases, the client with the attachment of his wife in a past life had suffered more than the client with thousands of soldiers in his auric space.
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Spirit Releasement or Foreign Energy Release is a therapy that seeks to free a person from external energies that may have occupied the person’s space.
Now what do I mean by external energies? When we look at a human, can we say he is a sum of different energies – every energy vibrating in its own frequency? What do we have at sub-atomic (inside atoms) levels – energy! So every human is a mass of various energies – energy of his body parts, energy of his mind, and energy of his life force or soul.
Sometimes these energies can piece off and leave the person it belongs to – this happens mostly to the mind energy of a person. This energy can enter another person’s space and settle itself there. Since these energies are energies of mind and soul of another person, it means they carry personality traits of the person they belong to. In such cases the ‘host’ in whose body the external energies are occupying can experience a shift in certain preferences and in outlook in his life. It also means that the issues of external energies can now become the “host’s” issue. How strongly the external energy influences the ‘host’ depends on various factors.
When the energy of a person who’s alive breaks off and enters another person it is called a Soul Fragment. If the energy is that of a dead person, then the energy is called Foreign Energy.
Spirit Releasement Therapy focuses on releasing such foreign energies from the space of the client so that the client has his energy as a whole and is not unduly experienced by external energies.