We Are Going On A Long Leave

Short GoodbyeThere come many opportunities in a person’s life when they can choose to follow their hearts or continue living in fears and insecurities of the mind. We (Geetha and I) have passed through quite a few and perhaps there lie a few more ahead of us. Most of the times, our choice was of the heart but once in a while we let our fears cloud us and keep us in the same of loop of suffering. We are once more at one such juncture in our lives.

This time the choice was unhesitating and simultaneous for both of us. Now, we’ve both come to a clear realization that further and truer healing cannot happen with conventional therapy but rather through a deeper introspection and awareness. And stepping into pure present moment awareness means we cannot avoid stepping into the unknown that follows it immediately. And to do that we realized we simply have to put in more faith into the life within and trust it to take care of us. And we are doing that. We are going away together to explore and experiment in deeper and truer healing. And, as usual with our lives so far, the experiment is first on us. We didn’t have to go away to let this healing happen, but the moment the realization to heal deeper came for us the universe opened doors for a perfect space to heal!

As a result, we are both taking a long sabbatical and we are closing Purple Room Healing for the public. The leave is for at least six months. The blog and all its articles will still be available for you all. We are also opening a site and another blog to share our onward (and inward) journey and to write about the practice of awareness. We will announce them here soon once we have made the physical transition to our new home and personal healing space.

Thank you all clients and friends who made this journey with us. We learnt a lot from each of you and we hope each of you had equally benefited through the help we could extend.

“The only freedom we’ve got is not to react to anything, but to turn within and know the truth.” – Robert Adams


Comparing a 5th Grader with a Post Graduate?

Do you compare a 5th grade child to a Post Graduate and scold the child for not knowing calculus or literature? Then why do you compare your inabilities with the most talented person and chide yourself? The mistaken logic of considering peers to be naturally equal to you creates unnecessary issues in our lives.

Do you compare a 5th grade child to a Post Graduate and scold the child for not knowing calculus or literature? Then why do you compare your inabilities with the most talented person and chide yourself?

This is a common trait we all carry and fail to see the mistaken logic behind it. I often get clients who come and say they lack a particular talent. Things will be fine if they stop at that. But they go ahead compare themselves to their peers in this area of talent and start criticising themselves. What they fail to understand is that they are making unfair comparisons and drawing wrong conclusions about themselves.

For instance, I had a client who was 35 and worked in an MNC. He lacked in communication skills and he had come to resolve that. He would often compare himself to his colleagues who are of his age and feel very bad that he was not as communicative as them. This in turn developed a marked inferiority complex in him. Until I pointed it out, he failed to see the mistake in his logic.

All of us have, more or less, equal capacity to grasp and learn a talent or skill. But because of the circumstances in which we grow up we tend to pick up certain skills faster than others, while missing out altogether on some skills. Figuratively, we can say that we are Doctorates or Post Graduates in those skills we had developed well while in some other skills we are still at a Primary or a Pre-primary level.

In the above case, the client was a primary school student in communication skills while in his technical skills he was certainly top notch. So where is the logic in picking a peer who is a Doctorate in communication skills and saying that I am not as talented? That is the path of doom and failure.

We simply need to understand that we have to start honing the underdeveloped skill as if we are learning it for the first time – because we are in fact learning it for the first time. And also expect to make those mistakes that any beginner will tend to make. Yes, our peers may laugh at us when we make mistakes, but ask yourself if you want to improve at the risk of being laughed at for a short while or hide behind a defence all your life pretending to be talented and worrying within all life through!

Once I pointed this to my client, he was able to focus on what was important – learning to communicate better – than comparing with peers and feeling depressed. It was in no time that he was able to communicate himself better. He has more milestones to cover, but the block that was even stopping him from making journey was gone forever.

And it is not just in communication issues that we make such mistakes. It is in many areas like relationships, financial stability, looks and image, technical talents, soft skills, and in many such that we compare unequal people just because they are of similar ages and put ourselves or others down unfairly. Stop doing that. See your mistaken logic. And start developing your skills if that is what you want!

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Suggested Reading:

Social Averages
Emotional Age
Mind Drama 

Spirits that come for Forgiveness

Spirits that come for forgiveness during past life regression sessions are not spirits that are attached to clients. They come because it is time for their release through forgiveness.

Spirit Release Therapy

In my practise of past life regressions, I have sometimes come across spirits that come during the sessions to seek forgiveness from my clients. In all of these cases, the spirits had not been attached to my client previously. They usually come when the client visits the relevant past life and they ask for forgiveness for their behaviour in the past.

In one such case, the client recollected a past life where he was a princely heir of a European line of kings. He saw himself being stabbed to death by his wife. Immediately after he visited the past life, he found himself face to face with the spirit of his former wife. The client was quite disconcerted but the woman simply said she had come for forgiveness which my client readily did. She said she still desired to be his wife in a future incarnation and that she would wait for him in the light. She left to the light afterward that.

There are times when the client starts spontaneously recalling a past life the moment he is under hypnosis. Usually this happens when the subconscious of the client has an important problem to be resolved immediately. But in one such case, it was not the client’s subconscious that ‘threw’ up the memory of a past life but it was a spirit. The client in this case was taken to a traumatic past life where he had been violently hacked to death. The client could only see fragments of the past. He had been a poor kid living in a slum and all the client could remember was the violent death and the face of the perpetrator – a cruel looking man in his forties.

I moved the client away from the past life because he was obviously experiencing the trauma once more. Immediately client saw himself facing the spirit of the cruel looking man. The spirit carried a sword in his hand. It was the same sword that the man had used to hack the child to death. My client became so upset and angry that I had to bring him out of the session without releasing the spirit of the cruel man.

But that night my client dreamt of the cruel man and it was quite disturbing for him. The client fixed an immediate appointment with me the next day. I explained to him that it is important to release spirit attachments once they show themselves and the dreams had been because the spirit of the cruel man had not been released. My client agreed reluctantly to talk to the spirit.

I induced hypnosis and directed the client into a guided imagery session. He pictured entering the garden he had visited in an earlier session. There he found the cruel man waiting for my client. Initially the client reacted angrily and started challenging the spirit. Challenge could lead to flaring of egos and the case could only get unnecessarily complicated. I reasoned with my client. He calmed down and asked the cruel man what he wanted. The man immediately threw his sword down and begged for forgiveness. He told my client that he had suffered much due to his guilt and regret over his ghastly deed.

My client was reluctant to forgive the man. Usually most clients readily forgive or let go of past life issues and attachments. But in this case, my client had become upset over the brutality of the murder and was still sore over it.

I asked my client to call upon his spirit guides. He saw Jesus and another guide come into the garden. My client asked for their advice but they said they are leaving the decision entirely to my client. They said they would be okay with any decision my client made. Obviously it was time for my client to learn through his own thought. It is incidents like these that evolve most of the clients to a whole new level of maturity and spiritual growth.

After much thought my client decided to forgive the cruel man and he did it willingly. Not surprisingly, my client felt emotionally relieved on forgiving the cruel man. We helped the man go into the light after that.

Our issues have roots in the past – Regression Therapy Case Study

All of our issues have roots buried deep in past and Regression Therapy helps uncover and resolve them!

All our issues have origins in our past and what problems we are experiencing today are actually symptoms of those issues. Regression Therapy helps in identifying and dealing with the root events.

Here’s a live case study of how deep some issues may be buried:

This client was around 58 years old and he was having severe panic attacks and negative thoughts when it came to the matter of money and wealth. His mind would always have negative thoughts about money and that started manifesting into panic attacks. He said he was well off with enough properties and assets to keep him and his family secure for the rest of his life.

According to him these negative thoughts started about a couple of years ago when he had a major financial loss and had to close his business. And it had come to such a state that any small change in the state’s political scenario, real estate or stock market and he would have severe negative thoughts about his own wealth. Every month he would fear some new problems would arise and affect his wealth.

Under regression, his issues proved to have roots deeper than his recent financial loss. He regressed to an event when he was 19. Because of some family issues, he had been forced to move out of family business and seek his own financial independence. That was the first root for thoughts about his financial insecurity. A couple of financial issues later in his career cemented his roots and the recent loss brought those thoughts to the surface and started manifesting as panic attacks.

Regression Therapy is a powerful technique that can pinpoint roots related to current issues in life and help deal with them.

Case Study #3: Fear of Bike Riding

Having fallen from a bicycle instills a fear of riding bikes in a girl! She felt she could never handle any vehicle that’s heavier than her bicycle!

I had this girl who was afraid of riding a bike. She was quite comfortable with riding her bicycle but she wouldn’t touch even a moped. Her father complained that she was terrified of even trying it despite his assurances that he would be sitting behind and guide her. But she never showed any signs of fear or anxiety while riding pillion and would gladly do it.

I had a doubt she may have witnessed an accident or she may have developed a subconscious fear while riding pillion. But I was wrong. When I did an age regression I found that she was very comfortable riding pillion and had not witnessed any motorcycle accident. Since she had never ridden a bike or moped in her life there was no way she had bad experience riding. Similarly, since she was comfortable riding a bicycle I could not find any reason to regress to her cycle riding days. Finally I decided to use ‘emotional regression’ method. It is just like the ‘Stems Technique’. In this method, the therapist recreates the emotions similar to those the client experiences when confronted with their issue. So I used guided imagery to make her imagine herself back in her home standing before her dad’s moped. I found the anxiety and the fear creeping back into her expression. She became acutely uneasy when I asked her to sit on the moped. Seizing the chance, I directed her to go back to the first time she felt this dread of riding.

She regressed back to an event in her bicycle riding days when she had to brake suddenly at a junction and fell off her vehicle. Incidentally she had braked for a rash moped rider. This triggered in her a fear of that traffic junctions and a fear of riding. I moved her forward to next events and found she had similarly fallen off her cycle during heavy traffics. She was careful in her riding later but events instilled a new belief in her. She subconsciously believed if she had been on a moped or a bike instead of her cycle, she may not have escaped through those accidents with just minor scratches. Her mind decided she cannot handle heavier two wheelers.

I helped her neutralize this old lesson in her subconscious and also helped remove her fear of junctions. Finally I did a future progression to instill confidence to ride a bike. A few weeks later I heard from her dad. He told me that he had gifted his daughter a brand new scooter and that she had completely lost her fear of riding!

Case Study #1: Karmic Debt of a Housewife

I had a client, a housewife, who came to me to be treated for an unusual emotional issue. She said her problem was that she had become extremely jealous of her husband’s friend and she carried vitriolic hatred against that person. The friend was a male. He and my client’s husband were friends since their school days. My client simply hated this person to come into their house, talk to her husband or even call him on the phone. Her aversion was so strong that she had many arguments and serious fights with her husband over that friend. Her husband refused to let go of his friendship because he felt his wife was unnecessarily making a fuss about nothing. The friend, by the time my client first came to me, was the coming to their house almost three times a week and would spend evenings with my client’s husband.

My first doubt was that my client was very possessive about her husband. So in my pre-interview I tried to gather more details about her family. The interview proved possessiveness was not a factor. My client’s husband also had three or four of old school friends visiting him regularly. A couple of them were also involved in his business and were closer to him than the friend my client was jealous of.

I did a couple of regression sessions for her to find the root cause of the issue in this current lifetime but I was not going anywhere. I found that she was jealous of him from the moment her husband first introduced him before their marriage, which was about 6 years ago. My client also firmly believed that the friend was also feeling the same jealousy and hatred for her; and was deliberately manipulating her husband to make my client even jealous and miserable. Though that seemed more like imagination on the part of my client, as a therapist I could not disregard that possibility. It is of paramount importance that the therapist always remains non-judgmental and open minded at all times.

On the third session we had a surprising turn of events. I varied my induction method and used EET instead of classic hypnosis. EET is a wonderful technique and works very well with clients who do not respond so well to classic hypnosis inductions. After a few rounds of EET I knew my client was in deep hypnosis and I regressed my client. I asked her to go back to the first time she felt jealousy and hatred for this person. My client began to narrate an event that was certainly not from her current lifetime. She saw herself as an obese, dark skinned, middle aged woman of a lower income group. Her husband in her current lifetime was also her husband in that lifetime. She was a meat vendor and her husband did some menial job. One day her husband took in a second wife who was slimmer and prettier. My client recognized this woman as her husband’s friend in her current lifetime. The meat vendor wife became angry with her husband and also felt jealousy for the new prettier wife. She began to take out her anger on this pretty second wife. She ill-treated the younger woman and made use of every opportunity to incite a quarrel between her husband and his second wife.

I guided my client through the entire lifetime and to her death in that lifetime. While she was reviewing her death, she had this feeling that her suffering in this current lifetime would be complete once she knew about the cause.

After the session her life took a surprising turn. Her husband began to avoid his friend. He also began to notice that the friend was deliberately manipulating him to provoke arguments with his wife. My client was right when she said her husband’s friend was manipulative and jealous of her relationship with her husband.

I met my client quite recently, about three months after her therapy sessions with me. She informs it has been more than 40 days since her husband’s friend came to their house. This was a miracle considering the person previously used to visit their house every alternate day. My client also tells me that even when the friend comes she is hardly bothered about him and she treats him politely like she would treat any guest in the house.