What are the folds of your personality?

 

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What are the folds of your personality?

How do you fold? How many folds do you carry? They are a strange set of questions, but put in right perspective, they can send one off on an exciting healing quest. And the answers to these questions can be both revelatory as well as shocking.

So here’s the perspective:

Imagine you were born into this world a clean sheet of paper. Every defining moment in your life causes you to crease and fold into various directions. You soon fold into a beautiful piece of origami! It’s not the final fold, but the origami piece that you are now is more or less stable.

Folds are spaces of held belief, faith and rigidity that swings you from one perspective to another viewpoint.

Now even if this origami piece is unfolded deliberately, the paper doesn’t automatically become plain and flat. There are still creases – or memories – of all past folds and also a tendency to fold into the same old form again.

So these folds are spaces of held belief, faith and rigidity that swings you from one perspective to another viewpoint. Anything defining in your life can be a fold. For instance, you are an infant in the arms of your mother. You see a spider and reach out to explore but at the same time your mom sees the spider and screams in fear. You start bawling; somebody comes and kills the spider. You may have folded in the direction of your mother that day, that is, picked up an irrational fear of spiders.

Another example could be you were harassed badly in your school and in response to that trauma your mind creates a defense to protect you – the defense could be anything like avoidance behavior, increased shyness, an aggressive stance, or any other form of protection. You have folded in yet another direction.

Another twist in the story is that some folds can be habitual behavior without any strong belief behind it save that of the need to express it in order the preserve the personality, or your ego in this context. A good example for this is an emotional habit like anger, grief, feelings of depression, etc. Many people are challenged by any of these emotional habits. My challenge is my anger folding – I have a need to become righteously angry every time I want to assert myself. Yours could a continuous mild depression or violent rage or demanding sexual desires or anything else.

Eventually, by the time you grow up, you arrive at a relatively stable personality that tries to preserve its folds and avoid future folding. The reason why the mind wants to preserve its folds is because you are defined by those folds – without them you don’t have a personality; you are not you! Yet at the same time, some of these folds could be the very reason why you sometimes feel conflicted, miserable or frustrated in life.

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The mind wants to preserve its folds is because you are defined by those folds – without them you are not you!

How do you fold?

Let’s go back to the initial questions now – How do you fold? How many folds do you carry?

The easiest way to find is to look for compulsive emotional patterns in your life because that’s where you can catch yourself ‘folding’. Let me give you an example.

I’ve mentioned before that anger is one of the challenges that I face. Another challenge is the inability to ignore what others speak of me. Now you can imagine the folds these two challenges in combination may have created in the past for me.

So every time I hear any gossip about me I quickly ‘fold’ into anger. It’s an automated fold – one minute I am merrily minding my work and the next – the moment I hear about the gossip – my mind takes this 90º turn into a hurt and angry perspective. And then all the intricate folds of anger began to happen – like I grind my teeth, get into short agitated bursts of fury, strong impulses to break things and so on – it’s almost like dominoes falling. Of course, with every effort to heal this anger, I have learned to manage the impulses but the ‘creases’ for it are still there on the sheet of my mind.

A few weeks ago I was able to catch myself in this folding. I was detached enough to see my angry thoughts race through my mind sending off impulses to act violently outside. The trick is to be able to do this. Of course it takes some practice for it is not easy to be detached when you are folding. You are the personality and the personality wants to fold. The method I used was to regularly practice watching myself when I am in a ‘normal’ frame of mind. This watching is from within, not from some external viewpoint. That soon gave me an ability, in some areas of folding at least, to watch myself folding without entirely getting lost in the folding.

Of course, you need to remember that if you catch yourself folding, it means there’s still a part of you folding into that emotional turn while another part of your is able to observe it happening. Your personality is still folding, but that’s how you answer the question “How do you fold?”

Can you unfold?

To answer the second question “How many folds do you carry?”, you need to catch yourself every time you fold. You don’t stop it, you just consciously witness it. And this is not so easy too, for many of your folds are also the moral and ethnic frameworks of the immediate society you live in. So you may not recognize the folding happening in those areas or even if you do, you may choose to keep them.

Some folds are a set of a series – that is, you they fold one after another in quick succession – they are so compressed that you may assume in the beginning for all of it to be one single fold. But with time and little effort of learning to watch yourself from within, the folds can be observed – sometimes almost like a flower blooming and you become a bit more calmer and peaceful no matter what is unfolding currently in your life.

An interesting observation I’ve made in my life is that life seems constantly provide opportunities for us to heal through our folds. Healing may not always mean unfolding. Healing is also being able to fold into beautiful pieces of origami that we are without necessarily suffering for it!

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How my son learned to speak!

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Last year I’d visited a friend of mine whose children are unschooled. Since I and my wife were also considering homeschooling our son, my conversation with him naturally gravitated towards the whole concept of learning without school. My friend narrated a story of a psychologist who had recorded all the sounds his kid had uttered, from infancy to the time the kid was making conversations. And it seems the psychologist had discovered that every sound the kid had uttered during infancy was geared toward eventual verbal communication. I nodded. I didn’t really understand what it meant, I just had a vague intellectual understanding of it.

My kid was just about an year old then and was already uttering incoherent sounds. One day he learnt to produce a specific sound that sounded like ‘yenthi‘. I understood it was meant to be ‘Enti‘ which is Telugu for ‘What?’. There was also a gesture he would make with his hand whenever he would utter yenthi. It looked like a gesture of enquiry with his hand at his chest, pointing away from him, the palm facing upwards, the fingers slightly curled and later he added the gesture of moving the hand up and down or, sometimes, sideways. I noticed that he used the word whenever he wanted to know what something was.

Gradually I also noticed that he used the same word and gesture to ask the whereabouts of people. Like he would say, “Ama yenthi” with the accompanying hand gesture which meant ‘Where is mother?’. So he was using the same sound for two different purposes. Finally I realized that he was also using yenthi and the hand gesture as a way of asking any question or to make any enquiry. So yenthi was his ‘why’, ‘where’, ‘what’, ‘how’, and also the demand for an explanation. He never used it for ‘when’ because he still probably wasn’t familiar with the concept of time by then.

So yenthi was his mode of enquiry. When he wanted answers from us, he used yenthi and the hand gesture. Sometimes he also used it as a conversation starter, which I found in a lot of other children of varying ages – especially as a means of expressing interest or desire in a toy or food or other curiosity, they would come and ask me, “What is this, uncle?” even though they know what is it that they were pointing at.

But an even more astonishing discovery for me came a few weeks later. I’m used to listening to music everyday and even though our son listens to the music that I hear, we used to play songs particularly for him too. Some of them were the standard rhymes and children’s songs in English or Telugu. One day I found him singing a familiar tune. I was a bit away from him, lying on the floor half asleep. In that alpha – or theta – state of mind, I was stunned to hear him clearly sing the lyrics of the song. I became wide awake and crawled up to him. I immediately noticed that he wasn’t singing the exact words but was reproducing sounds closest to the lyrics as much as he could. It was a double revelation for me. First, in my deeply relaxed state of mind, I was hearing perfect lyrics coming from his mouth. Second, he was actually singing the sounds closest to what he has heard.

When I heard first my son sing I was in a deeply relaxed state of mind (scientifically an alpha or a theta state of mind). And that helped me recognize the broader patterns in my son’s singing and recognize them as lyrics of the song. If I was in any different state of mind, I probably would have thought of the sounds as gibberish. The mind then ‘filled in’ the details of the lyrics in my head – provided the missing pieces of the sounds. So when I became wide awake I was able to recognize the patterns still even though they were incoherent utterances on the outside. My son was singing the most primitive version of the sounds. And in his mind, they probably were perfect lyrics, at least for a while. Also his listening worked in a way how peripheral vision works. Quietly observing and filing away without being too conscious about it.

Think of it as a heavily unfocused version of a photograph. You can barely make out what the subject of the photograph is but it is still the photograph of that subject. I started understanding how my son was learning stuff and became keenly interested in it.

Slowly I noticed that he was using simple words to convey full sentences, just like his yenthi earlier. At this point I was tempted to ‘correct’ his speech and teach him more vocabulary. I even did that a few times as any concerned/excited parent would. I found it to be a frustrating exercise both for him and me and I quickly dropped it. In fact, he picked up more vocabulary whenever he was not directly participating in a conversation or when we were not trying to teach him language deliberately. He also learnt in cycles but more about that in a later post.

The need to communicate and participate in ‘adult conversations’ was driving him, I think, to learn more and speak more. I understood that his approach to learning pretty much anything worked like the blurred out photograph example. He was learning the most visible or the most impacting pattern or form (like an outline or silhouette to put it crudely) of anything and eventually filling out the details in the weeks or months following that.

The incoherent communication the child was making was language in its rawest form and each sound represented a whole concept or narrative!

For instance, if we explained something at length to him, and if he would listen fully, he would keep quiet for a while and then summarize my whole communication into a single word (or two at the most) and say it back to us as if in confirmation. And then he’d use that word to mean the whole concept that we had explained earlier. Much later he’d pick up more words and meanings to expand upon the subject. Or for instance, he became a big fan of batman and quickly learnt the color combination of the superhero and also the outline of the batman logo and he would then recognize it anywhere.

I immediately resonated with this pattern of learning of his. Because it was very familiar to me. Back in school, I had noticed that while many students learned stuff faster than me through rote memorization or whatever methods they were employing to gain marks, I had a different pattern of learning. When I first learnt of a new concept, I’d only grasp the rawest outline of it. Then I’d have to break away from learning anymore otherwise the concept would become too overwhelming to me. And when I visit that concept again after a few weeks, the earlier familiarity with it would make it easy to now grasp further details and eventually with similar revisits I’d fully absorb the material. But unfortunately, schools are unforgiving when it comes to time, and I misinterpreted my learning approach as a defect in myself.

So I could now understand how my son was naturally learning. Slowly I recognized that nearly all the barely-coherent communication he was making was language in its rawest sound form and that each sound did not represent a single word but a larger narrative. He was trying to tell stories in simple syllables!

Neither are the communication components readily recognizable nor is the narrative alterable. ‘B’ has to come after ‘A’ and there’s no lenience allowed.

And this natural learning of his is the exact opposite to how most schools approach teaching. While my son was grasping narratives as outlines and was verbally telling stories with simple words, many schools come in the opposite direction. They break down all communication into language and language into its smallest components and then ask the children to grasp an entirely abstract alphabet first. And even here, the child is not given the time to play with the shapes or sounds of the alphabet. They are almost immediately ‘corrected’ into the standard systems. Every upturned ‘A’ shape is turned around. Every ‘thee’ sound is corrected to ‘t’. So out goes communication and in comes an abstract and meaningless language.

Even if the components presented by the teacher were recognizable to the child as a part of a whole, the child could be engaged in building its own narratives. But neither are the components readily recognizable nor are the narratives alterable. ‘B’ has to come after ‘A’ and there’s no lenience allowed. The alphabet has an unalterable order to it making it absolutely meaningless to the learner, sometimes for many years after leaving school. How many of us adults silently muttered “L, M, N, O, P” in our heads to find if P came before or after L in a dictionary! Fortunately, dictionary apps saved us that internal shame!

In the meanwhile, left to his own devices my son’s speech became more coherent and the vocabulary increased. He was probably frustrated by the fact that we bewildered adults couldn’t always grasp the finer details of his narrative that his single sound communication was attempting to establish! His natural listening and observation came to his rescue there. Like a photographer adjusting the focus ring of his lens so the now-familiar outlines of the subject turned into a slightly more detailed picture, he grasped a few more finer details of the world, the sounds that represented them, and started forming rough-hewn sentences.

The greatest takeaway for me was the uneasy realization that I carry this deeply ingrained instinct to school him. To tell him what is wrong and right, to correct him until he ‘learns it right’, to stop his curiosity to prevent ‘accidents’, to ‘sanitize’ his environment, to teach him manners (sit straight, eat with your right hand, say ‘namaste’, ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’), to shout at him or to assume his mischievous intent without reason. And the way sometimes it leaks out. I find the need to be self-aware more than ever!

Chakra Healing with Reiki – 7 Day Live Online Event – Cancelled

 

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Please note that this event has been cancelled and we will shortly announce fresh dates for the next live healing broadcast.

In the meanwhile you can also listen to our Chakra Healing Guided Meditation on the channel or listen directly here:

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Watch out for our 7 Day live Reiki healing online for Chakra Healing on our Purple Room Healing youtube channel. Receive Reiki healing energies to heal and cleanse your chakras wherever you are by attending our Live Reiki broadcasts for seven days.

This is a live event that begins 27 August at 10 pm IST (check your local time here). Anybody who wishes to receive healing for their chakras can attend the event online.

Do attend our live session and do share with others. This event is FREE for all.

Event Dates:

The 7 Day Chakra Healing dates are

Day 1: 27 August, 2018 at 10pm IST  (check your local time here)
Day 2: 28 August, 2018 at 10pm IST
Day 3: 29 August, 2018 at 10pm IST
Day 4: 30 August, 2018 at 10pm IST
Day 5: 31 August, 2018 at 10pm IST
Day 6: 01 Septemeber, 2018 at 10pm IST
Day 7: 02 Septemeber, 2018 at 10pm IST

The event starts at 10 pm IST all the 7 days.

Reiki 1st and 2nd Degree Workshop in Hyderabad – 25, 26 August 2018

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Power of Healing in Your Hands!

We are happy to announce our next Reiki workshop in Hyderabad. This is a beginner workshop of Reiki 1st Degree and Reiki 2nd Degree. It is obligatory for participants to attend both the workshops since we follow a William Lee Rand lineage of teaching.

The workshop is at our home in Sidhartha Nagar, Near Ameerpet, Hyderabad. Please see the details below:

 

 

Reiki 1st and 2nd Degree Workshop

Dates: 25, 26 August 2018 – Sat & Sun

Venue: Purple Room Healing, Sidhartha Nagar, Hyderabad (near Ameerpet/Yousufguda)

Eligibility: For beginners with motivation to learn and practice an energy healing technique.

Participant Limit: maximum 10 participants (so please register early)

Cost: Rs. 6150/- (inclusive of lunch, material cost and certificates for both the days)

Last Date for Registration: 19 August, 2018. Call 9394301400 for registration.

About Reiki: https://deadmanswill.wordpress.com/about/

About Reiki Master: Kiran is a Reiki practitioner and a Hypnotherapist with 9 years of experience in Reiki and other therapeutic modalities. He became a Reiki Master in 2011 and has been conducting workshops (in William Lee Rand lineage) since then.

Note: If you have to cancel your participation, please do so at least a week in advance because all our workshops are limited to small number of participants and your early cancellation could help us offer that space to other interested persons. Last minute cancellations deprive us of that opportunity.

Chakra Healing – Guided Meditation || Tree Guide Method

We’ve published our first guided meditation video for Deep Chakra Healing through the Tree Guide Method. This guided meditation is a powerful chakra healing meditation session that cleanses and heals your chakras and the energy body. In the process, you are also connected to an ancient keeper of the earth through this meditation who can awaken your natural wisdom and connection to the earth and the cosmos. For best results, I’d advise you to repeat this meditation session once a day for at least seven days.

This healing session consists of guided deep chakra cleansing and healing followed by the energy body healing and shielding.

The location of the chakras within the body may be slightly different for each person. Let your intuition guide you there. For further assistance, read the rough guide for the location of chakras below:

ROUGH GUIDE TO THE LOCATION OF THE CHAKRAS

  • Root Chakra or Mooladhara: Near the base of the spine. Usually between the genitals and the anus.
  • Sacral Chakra or the Swadhisthana: Some find it near their reproductive organs while some find it closer to the navel.
  • Solar Plexus Chakra or Manipuraka: Most find this chakra near the navel but some locate it in the hollow just below the chest in the middle, where the rib cage parts.
  • Heart Chakra or Anahatha: In the middle of the chest.
  • Throat Chakra or Vishudhi: In the throat region. Some find it at their adam’s apple, while some see it in the hollow of the throat.
  • Third Eye or Agna: Between the eyebrows. Some find it vibrating in the middle of the forehead.
  • Crown Chakra or Sahasraram: On the top of the head. Some locate it at the place their hair spirals out from.

Before you begin this guided meditation make sure you are in a quiet spot and you will not be disturbed during the entire session. Make sure your mobile is switched off, unless of course you are listening to this on your mobile. In such case, you can download this video for offline viewing and then put your mobile in the airplane mode so you are absolutely not disturbed during the healing session. This session is best done sitting on the floor or a mat. Find a comfortable posture. You can lean against a wall or a piece of furniture, that is OK. Use headphones for best results.

CREDITS:
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Eclipses – The Spiritual Significance by Anoo

This is a guest post by a dear friend and an intuitive healer Anoo at Breakthrough Holistic Therapy Center. Anoo is a Hypnotherapist and a Reiki Healer with additional specializations in NLP, EFT, Shadow Work, Matrix Reimprinting, Gestalt Therapy and Chakra Healing. You can get in touch with her at anujapathak24@gmail.com

After listening to her perspective on eclipses and learning how to effectively shield myself from any ill-effects of eclipses, I requested her to put her learning and advice in writing so everybody else could benefit from it. Her article is below:

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Everyone waited with bated breath after they collectively prayed. Will He agree to destroy the three invincible and constantly mobile cities?

The demons Kamalaksha, Vidyunmali, and Tarakaksha, sons of the asura (demon) king Tarakasura, had created these architectural wonders, these three cities made of gold, silver, and copper, which would constantly keep flying throughout the universe. Proud of their architectural feat and their invincibility, together they terrorized and wreaked havoc across the different worlds in the universe.

Defeated, the Gods approached Shiva, the Destroyer, and Regenerator, “Please save us Lord!” they pleaded. “The demons have made the three cities called Tripura totally impregnable. And the only way to destroy the cities along with demons is by shooting a single arrow when for a brief moment in time the three cities align in a straight line.  Also, the arrow is to be shot by the one who is the most powerful in the universe and yet who has no desire to harm enemies, and out of a sense of duty decides to destroy the three cities and kill the demons. The chariot on which he mounts should be of a kind never seen before in the universe. And the bow should be so unique that such a kind does not exist in the world right now. You are the only One Oh Lord who can save all the worlds from them!”

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Much to their relief, Shiva agreed. Shiva made the earth His chariot with the sun and moon as its wheels. Mount Mandara became the bow with Adi Sesha, the serpent of time as its bowstring. Vishnu Himself became the arrow. Together they followed the three cities throughout the universe waiting for that moment in a thousand years when all the three cities of Tripura would line up in a single file.

Line up, they did. In a flash, Shiva let loose His powerful arrow and Tripura was reduced to ashes.

Smearing the ashes of the burnt cities on His body Shiva then danced in ecstasy.

The three cities represent the individual world, the social world and the entire world as is.

When the conditions are conducive all it takes is the unleashing of a single arrow of consciousness (Shiva the essence of every soul) to:

  1. destroy an individual’s personal world, the beliefs about what makes up his/her identity.
  2. destroy his/her societal world or all the beliefs about how to fit into and follow the society and its dictates.
  3. destroy the entire world as perceived by the individual.

This is what an eclipse points towards within you.

Destruction, transformation, and regeneration.

Eclipses are spiritually known to be the harbingers of change.
They are pointers nudging you to look within and acknowledge parts of you that are eclipsed deep down in your own unconscious mind, waiting to be released into the light of your awareness.

A lunar eclipse occurs when the sun and the moon are aligned in a straight line exactly on the opposite sides of the earth, and the moon passes directly behind Earth and into its shadow. Lunar eclipses occur during full moon.

A solar eclipse on the other hand occurs at the opposite phase of the moon – new moon. It occurs when the moon passes between the sun and earth and it fully or partially blocks the sunlight. In either case the source of light gets eclipsed.

Time and again what is noticeable is how people actually notice changes happening during eclipses, full moons, or new moons. Call it a psychological effect of natural cycles, yet these cycles seem to remind one of the inevitability of the end of things and new beginnings. It is as if an eclipse only highlights the new waves of awareness and the death of old modes of thinking in the collective psyche of people.

During an eclipse, or in other words when the source of light is cut off for sometime all that lies in the shadows within a person’s unconscious mind, things that a person would not like to accept about himself/herself or about a given situation, or things that a person has developed a blind spot towards, steps to the fore to be seen, understood, acknowledged, and let go of.

It is said that spiritually in lunar cycles, every full moon offers us a chance to purge out what is not working in our lives, maybe old stagnant patterns of thinking and functioning which act as barriers to success and abundance, dysfunctional relationships, dissatisfactory modes of earning a living, in other words, whatever is no longer serving our highest good.

When there is an eclipse in the offing, however, we are not given a chance, or to be more apt, a choice. It forces the purging and cleanses and detoxifies.

Without a warning, unexpected changes may occur hastening in transitions into life, that could make you feel a little disoriented.

This is a period of facing your inner demons consciously.

And Shiva is the ultimate consciousness driving the destruction of your identity, the mask that you wear to hide what you think is your imperfect self, uncaging you from all social constructs and demands, tearing to pieces what you consider and perceive to be the world and freeing you to emerge as the source of light and darkness that you truly are.

An eclipse sets the giant wheels of the universe in motion for you to see the truth in any situation, no matter however unpleasant or distressing and finally realize that this too shall pass.

For what is true today may not be your truth tomorrow, as truth too constantly changes form.

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There is, however, one constant absolute truth on this earth and that is change.

Sometimes the changes or transitions are joyous, though you might feel a tad uncertain about the future, at other times the transition transforms and rearranges your entire perception of reality. The result is always positive in the long run, even though it may not be apparent in the now, much like when you drive you will be able to see only about 140 metres ahead but not see the entire road leading to the destination.

Also it has been observed the aggravation of symptoms of dormant or even active health conditions occurs during eclipses bringing to the fore the psychosomatic causes of all illnesses, which are almost always disregarded by us. It maybe due to the age-old collective psychological conditioning of people, deeply rooted in spiritual beliefs and archetypes and the natural cycles. The aggravation of symptoms, be they emotional or physical, simply serve as pointers to look within and consciously resolve what lies unresolved, deep in the unconscious.

Ancient traditions world over suggest a few preparatory practices, to keep troubling symptoms at bay and to make the most of the immensely transformative, collective psychological energies, of a full moon lunar eclipse.

These practices help to harness the transformative psychological energies and facilitate a ‘soft landing’ during the transition as opposed to a ‘hard landing’ that a tornado can cause (which somehow reminds me of Dorothy and Toto of Wizard of Oz totally unprepared and caught up in a cyclone, later experiencing a hard landing in the country of the Munchkins.) when we are totally unprepared.

After all, spirituality as much as science is a process that requires active participation from your end.

It always takes two to tango!

  • Fast or Eat your Last Meal Two Hours Prior to the Eclipse: During eclipses solar as well as lunar, fasting is advised by different spiritual preceptors across many traditions in the world.
    A study performed in 2011 showed that enhanced radiation of ultraviolet and other rays occur during an eclipse. This may also make the atmosphere conducive for some bacteria to thrive. If fasting is not possible at least make sure you eat your food two hours before the eclipse starts. The food needs to be digested before the eclipse begins. Leftover cooked foods from the eclipse should be disposed off.
  • Protect your boundaries: According to many traditions eclipses can also increase the emotional sensitivity to foreign energies, which can include simply being more sensitive towards that nasty bullying co-worker, or a gossiping neighbor, or even getting a sense of near and dear ones who have passed away which has a deeply psychological side to it.
    An easy thumb-rule to follow is to stay away from anyone who pushes your buttons, starting from at least three days preceding a full moon lunar eclipse and continuing to stay away till three days after the eclipse. But yes, that is not possible in most cases unless you are a complete homebody. Then too nasty relatives could be the trigger points!
    So you can follow this simple visualization exercise which is highly effective for protecting your personal boundaries. Whenever you are anywhere near people who trigger your emotions negatively, simply imagine a golden circle around you and another circle around them.
    Mentally say to yourself, “you shall not be able to cross my personal boundary and I shall not cross yours.”
    You can also do the spiritual exercise of cord cutting with people who disturb you at this time as a full moon lunar eclipse in any way is also about letting go of what you don’t need in your life.
    But before you cut the cords, make sure you understand why you have such people around you in the first place. For as the saying goes, teachers will continue to appear untill you have learnt your lesson!
    There is something you have not learnt about yourself and therefore you have that nasty co-worker bullying you, or that spouse abusing you, or you even repeatedly get stuck in traffic jams! When you see what actually lies behind your blind spot, or what lurks deep in the shadows within you, and acknowledge it all with compassion, forgive yourself and anyone else concerned, and let go, age-old dysfunctional patterns (maybe even inherited from your parents) fall away and get reduced to dust.

(Remember, the story of Tripura crumbling to dust narrated above?)

    To deal with other subtler forms of energies, more precisely, non-physical, i.e. spirits and entities you believe you can sense, you can perform a house cleanse by smudging the entire house and placing some crystal salt in areas where you sense the presence is strong.
    You can create a circle with the salt in the area or put some salt in a bowl and place it in the area.  This sends strong signals to your unconscious mind that you are taking steps to take care of yourself. That itself will provide a boost to your inner strength.
    Also, make sure you take saltwater baths and then perform a shielding exercise to protect your aura or your personal boundary. To do the shielding exercise simply close your eyes and visualize a bright white light cocooning you from head to toe. Repeat to yourself, “I am surrounded by a cocoon of light which allows only positive energies inside and reflects all the negative energies back to the source and transmutes them.”
  • Meditate: Eclipses are times when you suddenly see the truth in situations whether you like it or not. Make use of that energy by meditating consciously and letting whatever arises to come up. Meditating is not focusing or concentrating hard. It is about creating a safe space for yourself so that all the suppressed feelings and emotions can finally come up and be released once and for all. Do some guided meditation much before the scheduled eclipse date. This will keep your emotions and energies in balance. Most importantly this will still your mind and bring you to that peaceful silent space. And “God speaks in the silence of the heart. Listening is the beginning of prayer.” – Mother Teresa
  • Pray: This is a perfect time to attune yourself to higher vibrations. Prayer is what will give birth to the possibilities for the real invincible you to emerge. You may be called to give up something to enter a new phase in your life. That is the process of unpeeling and emptying out. Yes, it may seem frightening. For, nothing scares a human being more than the uncertainty of an unknown zone. But that is the beauty of it. Uncertainty is the space where miracles occur. Do not be hijacked by your fears for then you will be only shadow boxing. The eclipse needs to end and your soul in all its power needs to shine through.
    Prayers can be the vehicle inciting surrender and putting you in touch with the Higher Power. It can be in any form. It can be a plain conversation with God, or any chants that you like that resonate with your being.

You never know which chant can awaken the God within you.

Eclipses in general show you the value of darkness, for, it is in the darkness of a womb that a new life is born, for under the ground in the dark a seed has to split and die for a sapling to be born, a caterpillar has to die in the darkness of the cocoon to emerge as a butterfly.

Eclipses thus stand for metamorphosis, heralding in your freedom.

Anoo is a Hypnotherapist and a Reiki Healer with additional specializations in NLP, EFT, Shadow Work, Matrix Reimprinting, Gestalt Therapy and Chakra Healing. You can get in touch with her at anujapathak24@gmail.com

Reiki Workshop in Chennai – Aug 11 & 12

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We are doing a Reiki workshop in Chennai this August 11 and 12. The venue will be in Kottivakkam. Those who are interested in learning this energy healing system can register with us before 30 July.

This workshop is Reiki Level 1 and Level 2 and is for beginners. Healers who have been to our previous Reiki workshops can attend or volunteer for this workshop free of charges.

Since we are of William Lee Rand lineage, it is mandatory to participate in both Reiki Level I and Reiki Level II. Check out other details below and for a brief into on what is Reiki, please scroll down.

Course: Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2

Dates: August 11 and 12, 2018

Place: Ashwattha, Kottivakkam, Chennai

Seats: Maximum 10 participants only

Course Language: English. Tamil speakers can be accommodated but course material will be given only in English.

Eligibility: No previous knowledge of Reiki or healing systems is necessary. Those who are self-motivated to practise can participate.

Cost: Rs. 6150/- (includes course fees for both Level 1 & Level 2, course material and certificate costs.)

Registrations: Last date for registrations is July 30. Call 09394301400.

Reiki Workshop - Ashwattha, Chennai Final

Reiki Level 1 teaches you about the basics of Reiki healing system, how to scan a person’s chakras and body, how to diagnose yourself or another person, how to give a full-body Reiki to yourself or to willing others. Level 1 is a complete course in itself to start healing yourself or any others who are willing to come to your for healing.

Reiki Level 2 gives you the ability to perform distance healing – the person you are healing need not be present with you physically, the ability to heal pets, places and plants, teaches you how to send Reiki to events. You also learn to work with energy attachments and how to release them and how to shield yourself and strengthen your aura on an every day basis. You learn to cleanse your place or room and raise the positive vibrations/energy of your house/room. Technique to use incense sticks and other incense methods to cleanse your place on a daily basis.

Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2 are complete courses by themselves and are more than enough for a healer to heal themselves, their family and friends. To keep their premises cleansed and protected. All that is required of the aspirant is everyday practice.

Reiki certificates are handed out only after completion of 21 day self-healing routine after the completion of the workshop.

Reiki can be used for general well-being as well as for various issues including emotional problems, inner child problems, relationship issues, to remove karmic blocks, spirit release work, chakra healing, healing thought forms, fears and psychosomatic diseases, mental problems, past life karmas, remove black magic and other forms of energy attacks, and for many other problems.

Visit our Purple Room Healing channel on youtube for live healing sessions, guided meditations, and many more healing aids.

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21 Day Free Reiki Distance Healing Live Stream

Purple Room Healing YouTube Channel

We are starting a 21 Day live stream Reiki Distance Healing sessions on YouTube from tomorrow – 22 June 2018. These sessions typically last from 10-15 minutes and we send Reiki healing energies to all those who are watching the live stream. These sessions can be very soothing and be used to receive healing for any ailment.

Please make use of them by attending the live stream every day at 9:30 PM (IST) on our new Purple Room Healing YouTube Channel. Do subscribe to the channel so you could come back daily to receive healing.

These Live Reiki Distance Healing Sessions are free for all.

Free your natural self-healing state: Sleep!

Sleep is a powerful restorative space with capacity to render such deep healing that, if allowed to do its job fully, we may never need the help of a therapist or counselors in our life. Here’s how you can let yourself heal during your sleep.

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Where do we go when we sleep?

Sleep is a mystery in many ways. Where do we go when we are asleep? We are present physically but where does the rest of me go? How are dreams connected to the physical reality we live in? And why do I sometimes have dreams without me in it? Perhaps it is difficult to answer these questions. There may be many more mysteries about sleep that we may never satisfying solve. But we do know one thing about sleep for certain.

Sleep is a powerful restorative space with capacity to render such deep healing that, if allowed to do its job fully, we may never need the help of a therapist or counselors in our life.

Of course the problem is that we don’t let ourselves sleep well. We always go into conditional sleeping rather than restorative, natural sleep. A conditional sleep is a sleep with restrictions placed upon what it can do and what it cannot to us when we are asleep. Though, fortunately, we cannot entirely control what happens in our sleep we all still exercise certain influence over our restful states.

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Sleep without restrictions!

While some conditions are good, some are restrictive and stops the state from doing its job to the fullest. For instance in early childhood, we all unconsciously train ourselves to gain control over our bladders and bowels in sleep. This is good. On the other hand, after a series of nights haunted by nightmares, we unconsciously stress upon the need to filter out our dreams. For some it is unsuccessful and they have no control over their dreams and nightmares, while for others it works and they mostly have nightmare-free nights except during moments of crises in their waking lives. They may at best experience occasional dreams that are dreadful without reason or simply vaguely fearful and bothersome. In case of few others it may work too well that they never really remember a single dream as soon as they wake, some do not even know if they did dream at all. So with the help of our fears and our need to feel good mostly, we restrict or unconsciously monitor various functions of our sleep.

While there are many functions that sleep renders I’m going to focus only on its capacity to heal our daily stresses and even address our deeper psychological and emotional issues we carry within. Healing is an important function that our bodies and spirits need for our well-being. Yet it is also, perhaps, the most neglected. Our restful states have a natural capacity to clear out our stresses and repair our beings on a daily (nightly) basis but because of conditional sleeping those abilities are vastly underutilized. Of course, we can bring back our self-healing ability by exercises certain mental decisions firmly every night just before we fall asleep.

Stop Censoring Your Dreams

Our first job is to lift the conditions we’ve placed upon our dreams. None of us really know what dreams are exactly but we’ve all experienced moments of epiphany and self-realization, surfacing of hidden fears and desires, inspirational ideas and brilliant solutions through our dreams. There have been prophetic dreams and ominous warning dreams as well. Over time, we’ve learnt to censor which dreams should be remembered and which should be conveniently forgotten. We need to lift the dream monitor and trust our unconscious to protect and heal us. The simplest way to do this is to make a resolve to let all dreams that our subconscious/unconscious mind brings up in our sleep happen. Every night when you hit the bed, simply ask yourself if you are willing to see all that your subconscious and the unconscious part of being brings up in dreams. If you can give a resolute yes to that question, you’ve successfully lifted that restriction for that night. Do this every night and gradually you would have completely lifted the restrictions on your dreams. Don’t do this fearfully, don’t do this boldly. Do it open-mindedly.

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Dreamcatchers are not meant to censor dreams, but to protect a dreamer while they heal! Protective Charms over Sleeping Babies!

Of course this does mean that you experience a wide variety of dreams like you use to have in your childhood but it also means that you can successfully move into states of sleep where dreams show you deeper aspects of yourself honestly.

Please note that those who experience energy drains accompanied by psychic messages in dreams need to shield their auras well before you lift the restrictions on dreaming. Learn a few good energy shielding methods and use them well.

Sleep When You Sleep

We do everything else when we go to bed except sleep. We worry, stress, hate ourselves, curse, cry, talk, bother our partners, have sex or shag, read books, browse the web, chat online, listen to music – in short engage in all sorts of mind chatter and sensory stimulation when we lie down to sleep. Stop. Disengage. Bedtime is not for that even though we’ve been doing it for ages and seems the most appropriate time to confess our fears and sins to ourselves and those beside us. The mind needs to be calmed when you go to sleep. Carrying our fears and plans into the sleep will only disrupt our sleep cycle and its healing capacities. There might be days or times when you simply cannot calm your head in the night. That must be an exception not the rule.

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Sleep when you sleep!

 

Of course, do not put effort to sleep either. People have driven themselves into insomnia trying hard to sleep. Sleep happens. All I ask of you is to disengage from mental activities. Put the books, mobiles and laptops aside. Leave your glasses on the bedside. Whenever you find yourself mulling over the day’s activities or over your shortcomings disengage once more without anger or irritation. Perhaps spend time watching your body relaxing. Feel the weight of it. Maybe watch your breath.

Simply have the intention to sleep. Disengage with the rest of the world. Remember sleep is another world altogether. It is a different consciousness perhaps. So disengage from this world. Sleep will happen; you don’t wait for it either. Just be. That’ll do the job. You’ll sleep when you sleep.

But be very firm. Years of habit of worrying and deliberating while lying down will insist that this one thought or problem is really important enough that you lose sleep over it. Disengage. Let sleep heal your mind and body first. And you’ll be surprised at the amount and depth of healing that happens when you let it.

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Sleep!

When you sleep the restorative sleep, you’ll really begin to understand the depths of its capacity to heal and restore us both physically and spiritually. There are states of sleep that are profound for deep inner work, and to release our traumatic selves. It also makes our minds sharper and more alert.

Sometimes you may experience exhaustive days, but that’s just because your inner self is healing out a deeper damage within and needs some more rest. Just use some rejuvenating herbal teas and drink good amounts of water such days.

Sleep is a mystery. And every time we sleep well, we probe that mysterious state a bit deeper. And you’ll be surprised at what hidden gems you can uncover over time both within sleep and within yourself.

Reiki can develop your intuition

Every human is an intuitive being. The world of intuition opens up a whole new world and for those who’ve seen it, there’s no unseeing. Reiki can open up a whole new way of ‘seeing’ the world!

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Reiki can open up a whole new way of ‘seeing’ the world!

Every human is an intuitive being. Children are more attuned to it than adults because in the process of growing up and being schooled into an exclusive rational thought process, we eventually listen less and less to our intuition and finally lose touch with it. But our intuition is never really gone, and we can re-learn to listen to it and even develop it if we choose to. All it needs is a regular practice of listening to ourselves. There are many methods to revive our intuitive capabilities and I’m writing about Reiki practice and how it can sensitize us to our inner voice once more.

I’ve been practicing Reiki for over five years now. Over the years, I’ve seen my own intuitive abilities spiral and bloom and still continue to grow. Though there are other practises that I do too, my Reiki practice has significantly contributed to increasing my intuition levels. I have seen myself change from a non-believing skeptic of intuition to someone who relies on it on an everyday basis with my Reiki practice. The reason being consistent practice. Of course, I cannot boast of uninterrupted practice of Reiki meditation for months or years. Like all beginners, there were days or weeks altogether where I did not practice any meditations or take up Reiki healing sessions. Like any beginner, I could not ‘feel’ anything upon my palms or energy pass through my hands. Like many novices, when I scanned a person I came up with nothing on several occasions. Yet by the simple virtue of going back to my practice again and again, I was able to gradually develop my intuitive abilities and also explore the world of energy healing.

Reiki is an energy healing system and works on the principle that all living beings are filled with a life-force energy (Qi, Chi or Prana) and the source of that life-force is universal life-force said to be available all around us to readily tap into anytime. Reiki practice helps draw in that Qi energy and use it to heal our own energy blocks and deficiencies and also channel it to others who are in need of healing.

Naturally, if we are to heal people we ought to be able to diagnose what’s wrong with them in the first place. Reiki practice offers a few meditative tools to build the intuitive abilities of the healer for them to make accurate diagnosis of the ailment. And every Reiki healing session also tremendously attunes the intuition of the practioner. Only thing left in the hands of the practioner is practice!

I’ve noticed that today Reiki is a part of my lifestyle and intuition is something that I rely on for nearly everything. When I meet new persons, I notice it is my intuitive impressions are that are usually correct than my rational judgment of them. When I counsel people, I rely on my intuitive sense which gives seemingly random messages which turn out to be relevant to the client. I’ve learnt to heed my inner sense to make decisions in my life and also do not hesitate to make split second changes if my intuition says so. Of course, this is all possible only if we can know the difference between intuitive sense and our sense of fear. Because both of them can are gut reactions and can be mistaken for one another. Here again Reiki is helping me by healing through my fears and teaching to me listen to subtle signs that tell intuition apart from fear.

The more and more as I’m attuned into my intuitive sense, I’m discovering many more paths for me to explore, be fascinated by, and use to heal myself and others. The world of intuition opens up a whole new world and for those who’ve seen it, there’s no unseeing.

Reiki Healing for Pets and Animals

Donation based Reiki Healing for Pets and other Animals. Contact us @ 9394301400. Check out fb page @purpleroomhealing

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Reiki Healing for Pets and Animals

We are very happy to announce that we are starting Reiki healing services for pets and animals on a donation basis. You can either bring your pets to our place in Hyderabad for Reiki healing sessions or, alternatively, you send us a photograph of your pet and we do distance Reiki healing sessions. All healing sessions for pets are on a donation basis which means there is no fixed fee per session, you just pay from your heart whatever amount you wish to donate for the sessions.

We are also conducting distance group Reiki healing sessions for strays and other animals. You just click a photograph of the sick animal and send it to us along with some details about it. We will send group healing to the animal from our place. We also broadcast the pic to other pet-loving Reiki healer friends.

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Reiki Workshop Level 1 & 2 in Hyderabad

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We are conducting a Reiki Workshop Level 1 and Level 2 for beginners and those who have already received attunement in Reiki but wish to undergo it once more. As usual, for those who have undergone Reiki attunements with us are free to attend/volunteer for both the workshops at no additional costs. This Reiki Workshop is at our house in Hyderabad.

It is mandatory that beginners attend both Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2 since we follow a William Lee Rand lineage of teaching and the two levels are taught on two subsequent days. Read below for the details of the Reiki Workshop in Hyderabad:

Course: Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2

Dates: May 26 and 27, 2018

Place: Pragathi Nagar, Hyderabad

Seats: Maximum 10 participants only

Course Language: English. Telugu speakers can be accommodated but course material will be given only in English.

Eligibility: Motivation to learn self-healing technique and 30 minutes of practice everyday. Knowledge of the Chakra system is useful but not mandatory.

Cost: Rs. 6150/- (includes course fees for both Level 1 & Level 2, course material and certificate costs.)

Registrations: Please register yourselves at least a week before the workshop. Call 9394301400.

Pre-requisite: A sattvic diet of pure non-spicy vegetarian diet is to be followed by the aspirant since three days prior to the workshop and until the end of the workshop.

All attunements are done one-on-one, hence the number of participants is limited to maximum 10 person per workshop.

Reiki Level 1 teaches you about the basics of Reiki healing system, how to scan a person’s chakras and body, how to diagnose yourself or another person, how to give a full-body Reiki to yourself or to willing others. Level 1 is a complete course in itself to start healing yourself or any others who are willing to come to your for healing.

Reiki Level 2 gives you the ability to perform distance healing – the person you are healing need not be present with you physically, the ability to heal pets, places and plants, teaches you how to send Reiki to events. You also learn to work with energy attachments and how to release them and how to shield yourself and strengthen your aura on an every day basis. You learn to cleanse your place or room and raise the positive vibrations/energy of your house/room. Technique to use incense sticks and other incense methods to cleanse your place on a daily basis.

Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2 are complete courses by themselves and are more than enough for a healer to heal themselves, their family and friends. To keep their premises cleansed and protected. All that is required of the aspirant is everyday practice.

Reiki certificates are handed out only after completion of 21 day self-healing routine after the completion of the workshop.

Reiki can be used for general well-being as well as for various issues including emotional problems, inner child problems, relationship issues, to remove karmic blocks, spirit release work, chakra healing, healing thought forms, fears and psychosomatic diseases, mental problems, past life karmas, remove black magic and other forms of energy attacks, and for many other problems.

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Reiki One-on-one Classes

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Learning Reiki is usually encouraged through a group workshop since it can help each person find a community of practitioners to begin their healing journey with. But for various reasons like difficulty to coincide their dates with workshop schedules, preference of a weekday workshop(which is rare), or other personal needs, some may prefer learning Reiki on one-on-one basis. These one-on-one Reiki classes in Hyderabad are offered for such people.

Here are the details for Reiki one-on-one classes:

Course: Reiki Level 1 and Reiki Level 2
We follow a William Lee Rand lineage in Reiki and it is mandatory to learn Reiki Level 1 (Reiki Beginner course) and Reiki Level 2 (Reiki intermediate level) together on two subsequent days with us.

Course Duration: Two Days (Four hours each day – pre-noon or post-noon session)

Eligibility: Interest to learn self-healing techniques and motivation to practice everyday. Basic knowledge in Chakra system is helpful but not compulsory.

Pre-course preparation: Sattvic food diet for minimum three days. It is mandatory that the aspirant follow a minimum three day sattvic diet before attending the Reiki class. This includes avoiding non-vegetarian food, spicy food, junk food, carbonated beverages, alcohol, smoking and drugs.

Registration and Dates: Please call us at least a week ahead so we can fix convenient dates for the Reiki classes. You can call us at +91 9394301400

These Reiki classes are available in English and Telugu in Hyderabad. Course material, however, will be provided only in English for the moment.

Follow the links to understand what Reiki is and to read other frequently asked questions about Reiki.

Is Mythology Real?

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Indian history is steeped in mythology. Even modern politics has to deal with it at every step of national administration. But I’m talking about mythology at a personal level. Take Mahabharata and Ramayana for instance. Do you believe it is real? Something that has factually and historically happened in this land? Do you think it is just a fairy tale? Or do you find the metaphors in the epics real but the story itself to be a product of imagination?
A few months ago I’ve been to an event called Mahabharata Immersion by Ritambhara. It is a space for participants to explore the major archetypes of the epic within themselves and through that explore the troubling aspects within one self. I found the whole exercise profoundly affecting. It brought out many aspects within me that I’d been uncomfortable dealing with for a long time. I was forced to take a look at them. And I did, for a long time. So there, in that space, mythology is real and alive as a metaphor and as archetypes if we care to deal with them.
Then again, I’d also gone on a visit to Varanasi. And there I’ve seen another kind of tradition alive – one that not only believes mythologies to be factual events but also carries those myths forward. The people who burn bodies on the ghats believe themselves to be direct descendants of Harischandra. I also heard another friend recently tell me that the boatmen there also believe they are direct descendants of a particular boatman mentioned in Ramayana.
What this belief has done is lend a strong purpose and pride to the community of workers whose daily occupation is to burn the dead or to row people across Ganga. What would otherwise become a menial or even a distasteful occupation has now been fused with one’s own life purpose through this meaning making. In this context, these myths are real and factual by virtue of adherence.
I have amazing friends who reject the very idea of god and hence all mythologies associated with a conscious creation, the evolution of human consciousness as a consequence, and the consequent birth of moral societies. They are tales spun by the clever to subjugate the not-so-clever or the gullible. For them mythology is just a cultural curiosity at best.
In my household when I was growing up, they didn’t care much for Mahabharata or Ramayana but the moral codes in them were real and factual. Sin was a fact. So was virtue. Lord Venkateswara was real. So was Shiva, Parvati, Lakshmi, Hanuman, and Vinayaka. Their mythology was real and even historically accurate – for instance Tirupathi was the place where Lord Venkateswara really had turned to a statue.
As for myself, I fall into the category that wavers between all these spectrum of realities and fantasies. Some days mythologies are factual to me. Some days Gods are just rock carvings and their myths fairy tales. On some days they are so real and factual that I have conversations with them and take advice from them.
So it seems we each carry our personal myths that create a meaning and context for our lives. I’m also including here the belief that the whole creation is a product of chaos and is devoid of any so-called consciousness. These mythologies are very important to us. Some of us need mythologies that extend our connection with history through the centuries, some need mythologies that connect them with the land they live upon, some need mythologies that tell them they are right, some need mythologies that guide them through confusion, we all need mythologies to live. And they are all real and false at the same time. They are real because our lives are lived by those stories – either in accordance with them or through working against them. They are also false because disillusionment is as important as faith in our quest to find ourselves. When do they become real and when do they turn false is, I think, unique for each individual and the journeys they chart out for themselves.
So how can truth be real and false at the same time? It can be, right? We are discussing truth and reality from a human perspective and at that level belief is what creates our experiences and all experiences are real!
I realize that we try to keep our outer worlds factual and measurable – like how far is Varanasi from Hyderabad. What time is it right now? But our inner worlds, the realities by which we actually live are measured by faith or loss of it. Each of us live out our own mythologies that are real and factual. They are what make us humans. Perhaps none of us have ever really met except in the world of our myths and roles – except on very rare occasions. Perhaps this is what the meaning of parallel realities is really. Some of our mythologies have parallels with each other, some are diametrically opposite.
My life cannot move forward without my myths, and yet there is also a deep seated drive to go beyond all myths. I’m assuming that’s true for everyone in the world. So what is the myth that I carry and live? What is your mythology? What do we tell ourselves everyday to get going? What do we tell ourselves deep down that shapes our lives? Is my myth real or false? If we are all connected by storytelling, where do our stories connect? Why do collective myths also divide us?
On a confessional note, the most vital question that I’m struggling with right now is why do I worry when you don’t believe in my myth? Theoretically I shouldn’t but practically I am. Why?

Watch your thoughts; for they become your words!

The quote on watching our thoughts is not about controlling our thoughts or suppressing our habits. What it says is simpler and more profound!

“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
Watch your words, they become actions;
Watch your actions, they become habits;
Watch your habits, they become character;
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

shell-2218491My first brush with this profound statement was in my early school days. I fail to remember if I was formally introduced to it or I happened by it. Later, in one ‘Moral Science’ period our teacher lectured us on the meaning of this statement. It had a tremendous impact on me. Unfortunately the influence was a negative one.

The gist of the meaning (that our ‘Moral’ teacher gave us that day) was that we need to keep our thoughts in control else we would end up speaking them. We need to keep our tongue in check; else we would end up acting our statements out. We need to control our actions for otherwise they would become our habits and if we do not control our habits they will become our character. And finally our character will chart our destiny. So it all begins with controlling your bad thoughts. The phrase ‘negative thought’ wasn’t familiar to me back them; just good thoughts and bad thoughts. So “Do NOT have bad thoughts!

That meaning could not have been any farther from the real meaning of the statement. Regrettably, I didn’t understand the statement any better that day and the ‘Moral Science’ class unwittingly sowed one of the early seeds of guilt and self-hatred in me.

I vividly remember trying to control my thoughts and words. To my despair, the more I tried to control the bad thoughts the more they seemed to pop like corn on stove. In desperation, I tried to investigate what bad thoughts were. That made things worse. As I delved to find out the bad, I ended up discovering more bad than I could think up of before. Creative exploration of how many more bad thoughts could I come up with given a situation became a compulsive mental stance. Finally I made some sort of temporary peace with my mind by accepting the thoughts and telling myself that this is how I was – different from others – and I simply needed to keep it a secret. But the inner guilt and self-hatred were quietly weaving away their garbs.

It was not until many many years later that I discover the real meaning of the statement and that too by accident. I had then shifted back to Chennai with my wife and had set up my Hypnotherapy practice there. By a quirk of chance, I had chanced upon Eckhart’s Power of Now and had begun a deep practice of mindfulness. It was a blissful period for me. I often used my walks and other routine activities to become mindful and present. So during one of those days, I walked to a nearby stationary-cum-xerox store to photocopy some documents. As the man and the machine hummed away, I simply stood there aware of my being and thoughts. And on the wall right across was an A3 size poster with the same sentence again staring at me. Standing there in mindful awareness, the profound meaning of the statement hit me in the face.

All that the statement ever asked of us was to simply watch. Observe. To be mindful. Not to control, condition, claim, manipulate, organize, or meddle in any other way but to simply be aware of thoughts as they happen.

Watch your thoughts. Be aware of them.
Notice your speech. Be aware of what you are saying.
Witness your actions. Just witness them.
Are you aware of your habits? Just be aware.

No judgment implied whatsoever. Nothing about good thought or a bad thought. Just a plain statement on watching one’s thoughts. No secondary meaning of holding your tongue or repressing your voice. Habits are so regular and ingrained into us that we hardly ever notice them. The statement simply asks us to know about our habits. To see them.

Every second statement is a simple statement of truth.

Watch your thoughts; they become your words.
Watch your words; they become your actions…

See how the spiral of waves move from subtle to gross, from thoughts to words, from words to grosser actions, from actions to habitual patterns, habits to character, and character  to something both fine and gross at the same time – destiny. Like the spiral of a conch shell! So the statement also spirals outwards as a pointer to how things evolve – from within.

Such a profound statement!

But what is the use of it, if all it asks us to do is to watch without doing anything to stop us from becoming ‘bad’ or undesirable individuals?

Well the fear that we’d become ‘bad’ probably comes from our childhood programming where the statement was made in a very negative and tragic sense. “Control yourself, else you’ll suffer the consequences.” This makes the statement seems an affirmation of journey of a derailed life towards its inevitable destruction. But that’s not true.

The statement actually asks us to do something about it – in fact, it asks us to do something extraordinarily potent act. To watch.

Watching, as in simply being aware of something, being mindful, is a very powerful act. Suddenly in the state of awareness, we are pulled out of realm of judgments, desires and aversions. By becoming aware of ourselves we open up a field of possibilities beyond control and manipulation. We are not getting pulled into inferences and implications of our observed thoughts and actions. We are simply watching. The act of watching can simply dissolve our impulses to reaffirm (through desiring or denying) and anchor our behaviors in grosser patterns. Awareness helps dissolve the solidified and the crystallized. The truth is the power of awareness is best understood through experiencing it.

The statement also has nothing to do with age. It is never too late is something I’ve innately believed in and found to be true in most of my situations. Though I’ve come across the statement as a kid, I applied its wisdom only much later as an adult. And through application, I’ve come to realize that awareness is a natural aspect of life itself, a natural state of being and we can tap into it anytime we choose. And that awareness can become the key to unlock our potential to heal, to find peace, to discover who we are, and to be – to simply be.

Pic Courtesy: https://pixabay.com/en/shell-conch-conch-shell-nature-2218491/

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Which emotions make your personality come alive?

The emotions that make me alive are those that I experienced intensely and they have also added to the definition of my personality. So what is personality in such a case, what is me?

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Which emotions define the ‘me’?

Which emotions makes your personality come alive? This is a question that came to my sudden attention this morning as I was performing some household chores. Usually when I’m involved in routine chores, such as doing dishes or riding to a shop, I try to utilize the time for practicing mindful awareness but sometimes I lose myself in thought. These are the times when, as in meditation, subconscious matters that need immediate attention spring up in form of thoughts or emotions for me. I think this is the case for a majority of people.

So today as I was involved in chores, a set of imaginary situations where I was displaying righteous anger towards some people was running amok in my head. It took a while to become aware of it and I suddenly realized that this is one of the core emotions that makes my personality come alive – righteous anger.

And then I recollected another emotion that was doing the same function for me – deep melancholy, a kind of philosophical sadness or sometimes deep aching sorrow that racks my being. And then another emotion sprung to mind – delight – not the childlike innocent happiness, but a mischievous and empathy-blinding delight – the kind that elves are fabled to possess. I’m sure there are a few other emotions too that bring my personality alive.

So you realize by now that I’m not talking about the spiritual-type of aliveness here – the one that accompanies a very present awareness and gives a feeling of weightlessness and joy sometimes. I’m talking about when my personality or ‘me’ comes to feel it is really living the moment. The kind one might feel when partying or involved in experiencing our favorite emotions. The ‘hero’ of the story of my life.

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Is the story becoming a hero, the ‘me’?

When I become engaged in righteous anger, a part of ‘me’ really comes kicking alive. It feels like I’m really living my life – even though such anger is deep suffering. When I become deeply sad, I come alive. When I’m playing pranks or jokes upon others and roll in laughter the ‘me’ is alive. When I feel a deep sense of betrayal or victim-hood, I’m alive.

 

I don’t want to call the above emotions ‘negative’, because that is just a labeling we’ve come to give them after social and cultural evolution made them undesirable for a ‘stable civilization’. But we also know we cannot stay human without them. And they are also necessary emotions that help me take action, that help me get inspired, motivated, or get going.

The interesting aspect are not the emotions but the personality itself. These emotions make ‘me’ come alive and feel like I really exist and matter, on closer scrutiny, are also emotions that define me. In other words, the story has become the hero in many ways. I hope I’m expressing myself well here.

These emotions that make me alive because I’ve experienced them intensely sometime in my past (probably more than once) and since I’ve experienced them so deeply they have also added to the definition of my personality. So the events that evoked the emotions acutely for the first time have defined or re-defined the hero of the story. Hence the story is making the hero.

So what is personality in such a case, what is me? Am I a bunch of emotions and memories that strive to keep those memories and emotions alive? The reason why this question becomes important is because if we notice, our lives are a repeating set of emotions and circumstances. The events may be different but the circumstances and emotions that we come to experience are the same set. And every time we strive to keep those emotions from repeating, that very act is nudging us closer and closer to experiencing those emotions. And even though I hate some of these emotions, if they are making me feel alive then isn’t it desirable subconsciously for me to experience them again and again? For instance, if every time I become deeply sad and spend those moments defining philosophies of life and death, I’m deepening my set of values by those acts and hence also ‘me’. And I like that. I like to be seen as a philosopher, or a iconoclast or any other definition that I want to hashtag to my name. So now, in spite of not wanting to experience loss (because to feel sad I need to experience loss over and over), I am unconsciously moving towards it still because it makes ‘me’ me!

But in the last few weeks, I’m also able to see a certain hollowness in my ‘me’ emotions. I’m able to notice, partly only of course, the string of thoughts that are constantly spinning the tale of me even as I am experiencing these intense emotions. This is giving me a certain space from which to see these emotions and the story happen. This is happening probably because in the past few months I’ve had been serious about me and finally came to a point where I was taking myself so seriously that I’m seeing holes in the plot, the plot of ‘me’. Not that I’m able to take myself lightly now. Maybe that’ll happen eventually, I don’t know. But for now I’m able to get glimpses of the story/hero building as it is happening live. When I’m talking to someone, I can see how I’m using certain words or actions or emotions to nudge the events or people into my story or into hero-elevation that I’m seeking. The sense of emptiness that is behind this story-weaving process (that’s for another post). The interesting part is that I’m also able to see the story-building even in self-hatred that I carry.

Of course I can’t say that the personality or the ‘me’ is not important or is false. It may be false, but it is also required as of now because without it I cannot even make a choice to earn my living or do the works that I do. Unless there is a clear seeing that the ‘me’ is false, there cannot be a pretense towards the denial of my existing personality. I’m still getting angry, I’m still being sad, funny or many other things that I am for now. But knowing which emotions bring me alive is definite progress over simply getting lost into them.

So coming back to the original question now:
Which emotions makes your personality come alive?

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Superman – Pixabay
Daemon – Pixabay

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What is Spiritual Hypnosis?

This age is one of self awakening and self-enquiry. Spiritual Hypnosis helps aspirants explore questions about life, the purpose and meaning of life, their role and place in humanity, questions about death and to communicate with their Angel Guides, Master Guides and Ascended Masters.

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The Age of Spiritual Awakening is upon us!

This age is one of self awakening and self-enquiry. More and more people are finding latent questions about life, the purpose and meaning of life, their role and place in humanity, and questions about death coming up so strongly in them that they are taking time and effort to seek answers. Spiritual Hypnosis is an area that helps in exploring many of these questions.

Spiritual Hypnosis is not a new field – the coining of the term is relatively recent but this the exploration of fundamental questions of life and self-enquiry through hypnotherapy has always been an integral part of Hypnotherapy practice. With the publication of books on Past Life Regressions, Spiritual Guides and material on Life Between Lives has helped bring this field into public awareness.

This is a field that helps aspirants connect with their spiritual guides such as Angel Guides, Master Guides, Ascended Masters and ancestral guides, it also helps in exploring key past lives (more about Past Life Regression)that are currently influencing the aspirants current lifetime.

This is a space to even explore questions like life purpose, or to uncover oaths, curses, spirit attachments that may be limiting or blocking an aspirant’s life progress.

Spiritual Hypnosis is an area that is best suited for people who have fundamental questions about life, unresolved deep-seated issues that block spiritual growth, those seeking to know more about life and death, and people who seek guidance of their Angel and Master guides. Spiritual Hypnosis is also sometimes used to uncover and clear blocks in their Chakras.

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Dragon on a Trapeze – our first ebook!

Dragon on a Trapeze by deadmanswill. A book of verses and my personal memoir – emotional, spiritual and delusional is here https://goo.gl/b9oQhe

 

 

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Promotional Offer: Download this ebook for FREE from Amazon on 2, 3 November 2017

Over the last few of years, I’ve been writing about my emotional and spiritual experiences as verses on Facebook and on other places. Some of them are about intense emotional experiences, some of them about my depression phase, some of them spiritual in nature, some about my mindfulness practice, and some about my seeking for meaning of life. Recently I’ve compiled them all at one place and edited about 70 of them into an ebook. This book is out on Amazon now. It can be downloaded to mobiles and tablets (through Amazon Kindle App), and to all Kindle reading devices.

Tomorrow and the day after (Nov 2 and 3) I have put up a promotional offer on the book, so it can be downloaded for free to your mobiles and kindle devices on those two days. Please make use of this if you are interested in reading the book. And if you find the book interesting, please leave a candid review on the Amazon page.

Here is a description of the book:

We all are on a pilgrimage towards our very being and existence. Constantly battling for everyday survival and yet on a quest to answer life’s vital questions. What keeps us moving in life? And what makes us dig into our past? What is it that makes us tick? Where is Life taking us? Once the seeker in us wakes up there is no going back! On one hand we are human in our emotions and aspirations, yet on an another, much deeper level we are sacred beings that is seeking the very source of its existence and a richer meaning of life. Who are we really?

This book of verses is an account of one such pilgrimage. Through personal hell and heaven in a search for the eternal. Through emotional ups and downs, through the metaphors of religions and the archetypes of Hindu Mythology, through the natural world and the valleys within, through the duality of existence and mindfulness of this moment, until the Dragon on a Trapeze emerges and the firefly in the Heart awakens!

THE EMERGENCE

When home wobbles like a top
And we find no sacred ground to stand firm
The dragon on a trapeze
Comes to the rescue

THE FALL

Would my head stop wobbling
Like a planet
Drunk with love and fear!
Can I slip out of this familiar orbit!

THE FIND

When I walk in silence
Amidst the falling leaves
And autumn sunshine
I see you

THE FIRE

If the sun burns the heart,
The moon cleaves the mind,
And truth splits the tongue,
Then who fires the stomach?

THE BEGINNING

When the juggler finally arrives
Will he paint a garish smile on my dead face
Or would he rekindle the joy and toss the corpse?
An oasis of hope in the desert of seeking

THE END

Let the duet end
And the dancers vanish
And let it be known
That all movement
Is within!

Moving on – Beyond Depression

Moving beyond depression is a bit like leaving the ruins of your house blown apart by a sudden explosion. It’s tough! You don’t want to. It makes a melancholic sense to hang on to the broken pieces, hoping that you can still piece things together. You see the ghost of the sorrowful self still lurking in the ruins, lurking behind bare brick walls, standing underneath gaping hole in the ceiling, staring at the starry night framed by naked, twisted steel rods sticking out of the shattered concrete. This ghost has seen the light through the explosion and wants to forever be lost among the ruined foundations.

And when you have realized the immense blessing that the depression has been, the sense of old self becomes a thick nostalgic fog that lingers in the throat. What you’ve lost doesn’t want to leave you entirely. What’s new is not wholly invited. There is such a sense of immense sacrifice that you’d want to cloak it around you as a new identity. You drag it around and display it to the world. But then one day you realize, it’s all done.

Your sense of former self has been blown to bits. The field day you’ve had sobbing in the ruins is done too. The bits don’t belong to you anymore. What happens to the ruins is no longer your concern. Sacrifice is not a virtue anymore. All that’s left is a beautifully broken mind, a seedling of heart sprouting new hope, and a world full of possibilities. Above all a deep sense of aliveness inside that can lead to renewal of innocence and a new song. The cloak is the skin that has been shed. The snake cannot carry it around anymore. There’s no point to it.

If one continues to wrap it around and live in the ruins, one becomes a ghost of the past, haunting places that don’t exist anymore except as fading, weather-torn ruins in time-divorced spaces of the mind. The ghost cannot desperately cling to the thick night to see the glowing light again. The ghost and night needs to pass. Gray needs to give way to purple, and purple to pink, yellow and orange. If you need to let out one last cry, do it now. Let the tears carry away the hopelessness and melancholy that you’ve made your home. And let the final sigh give birth to renewal.

The night is through. Walk out into the dawn. You don’t know what is out there. But then you never did. The child still learns to eagerly crawl, walk, and explore. Let’s not meet the future. Let’s meet this moment fully. Let’s meet each other fully. Let’s meet this world fully.

Contempt – An intellectual’s shield against everything.

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Perhaps the best picture to represent contempt! Photo Courtesy: Gellinger

Years ago in my early days of blogging, I used to write against religious superstitions and blind beliefs. Needless to say contempt had been my biggest tool in propagating reason. I used to be pleased by a good number of comments and likes for my posts from people who supported my perspectives. Then one day I wrote a really explosive and extraordinarily contemptuous post against a particular religious superstition and there were really violent reactions. Believers attacked me with the same contempt in the comments section and then non-believers came to my support. Then the both groups left me out and were vulgarly stabbing each other with their sarcasm and violence. I was aghast at the whole proceedings and went back into my shell.

It was one of the turning points in my perspective on communication and the beginning of a journey. I went back and looked at all my blog posts and realized that all my posts had failed to impact the way I had intended to. I was hoping to change the fundamentalistic upbringing of children and reason-less adherence to rituals for the sake of it. But all the comments on the blog posts proved that those who appreciated my writing were already people who had similar perspectives, not believers who saw reason in my writing. Those who did not agree with me simply avoided my posts or blasted me as they finally did.

The reason was simple. My posts had been over-sarcastic. Contemptuous. Non-empathetic of those who I wanted to read my posts in the first place. I was constantly saying ‘you’ are doing this and ‘you’ are doing that. My contempt was my sword and shield. Reason was buried deep under contempt.

I then radically changed my writing. I decided to be empathetic not for the sake of simply writing or putting a point across, but to genuinely understand another person’s perspectives and beliefs. It became a constant in my writing. The ‘you’ became an ‘I’. And my posts started being about what I learnt in life rather than what I want others to learn.

Unfortunately back then, I was satisfied by this surface examination. I didn’t see the long roots contempt had put into the depths of my being. Sarcasm was, for me, just harmless jokes we make on each other. I continued to use it in my daily life without even realizing its presence too much. I had a couple of people tell me I was being contemptuous when I was joking around but none of those comments registered into me. I thought they were simply misrepresenting my words.

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Years passed by, and very recently I had the good fortune to visit Ramanashramam in Tiruvannamalai. While meditating, out of nowhere I got this feeling that it’s time give up my contempt. Somehow sitting there, I did not even question the randomness of that thought. I just quietly agreed.

Once I was out of the ashram, the first question that popped in my head was ‘What is contempt?’. I had no definitive answer. I decided to simply watch myself everyday till I discovered answers to the question. Life had turned very busy soon after that and I was meeting loads of new people. So there was a lot of social activity and conversations everyday. It gave me the canvas I needed to paint a picture of my contempt. Though there were many moments when I was totally lost to the awareness, there was still something shifting in the back of my mind. It was busy painting.

What is emerging is not a nice picture to look at. I was appalled at the ease with which I used contempt in my daily conversations. In fact, there are a few persons in my life with whom there would be no conversations if I really gave up contempt. All we did when we got together was to make comments on people and prejudices – nothing else.

I realized that this was my shield primarily. The moment I felt hurt and had to withdraw into my self, I would turn sarcastic or contemptuous. When I am unable to see another person’s perspective, I would become contemptuous of that person or their beliefs. It is also my sword. I would use it to lash out my violence upon others with it the moment I felt hurt or intruded. Somehow, the more ‘intellectual’ I feel, more the contempt seeping out the corners of my lips.

I have also become aware of contempt as a social norm. We love sarcasm so much that there are pages after pages on it on Facebook with millions of likes. Cynicism is an extreme of that habit. The question is what goals are being achieved out of contempt!

Is our communication effective? Yes, but in the exact opposite manner to what we intend. Is our daily life being enriched with this contempt? On the surface it looks like it keeps us in good mood and spirits, but then we are forced to ask the question what is it that we are hiding behind our contempt? Who is the child within who was so ignored that he had to grow this thick shell of contempt? And what happens when we lash out at others with contempt? Does that strengthen our relationships?

Contempt, for me, has become that metaphorical lashing tongue that cuts all cords with everyone and everything and finally takes us back to where we began and what we’ve been avoiding all our life – isolation.

So how do I  break this shield of contempt? For now I am simply watching. For experience has shown me that awareness and recognition are the most important. I see the ebb and tide of my inner violence. For contempt cannot be seen without seeing the violence in me. It can become painful at times to watch but the journey is worth it. Let me see where this leads to. Will keep you posted.