Reiki Healing in Hyderabad

Purple Room Healing is now in Hyderabad with Reiki Healing and Reiki Workshops only. Currently our services include:

Reiki Healing for
Physical Diseases like Diabetes, Allergies, Blood Pressure, Joint or Body Pains, Migraine Headaches, Asthma, Arthritis, Spondylitis, Stress Relief, etc.
Emotional and Relationship Issues
Spirit/Energy Attachments

For Appointment and other queries contact:
Geetha Pallavi
Reiki Master – William Lee Rand
Mob: 9394301400

We Are Going On A Long Leave

Short GoodbyeThere come many opportunities in a person’s life when they can choose to follow their hearts or continue living in fears and insecurities of the mind. We (Geetha and I) have passed through quite a few and perhaps there lie a few more ahead of us. Most of the times, our choice was of the heart but once in a while we let our fears cloud us and keep us in the same of loop of suffering. We are once more at one such juncture in our lives.

This time the choice was unhesitating and simultaneous for both of us. Now, we’ve both come to a clear realization that further and truer healing cannot happen with conventional therapy but rather through a deeper introspection and awareness. And stepping into pure present moment awareness means we cannot avoid stepping into the unknown that follows it immediately. And to do that we realized we simply have to put in more faith into the life within and trust it to take care of us. And we are doing that. We are going away together to explore and experiment in deeper and truer healing. And, as usual with our lives so far, the experiment is first on us. We didn’t have to go away to let this healing happen, but the moment the realization to heal deeper came for us the universe opened doors for a perfect space to heal!

As a result, we are both taking a long sabbatical and we are closing Purple Room Healing for the public. The leave is for at least six months. The blog and all its articles will still be available for you all. We are also opening a site and another blog to share our onward (and inward) journey and to write about the practice of awareness. We will announce them here soon once we have made the physical transition to our new home and personal healing space.

Thank you all clients and friends who made this journey with us. We learnt a lot from each of you and we hope each of you had equally benefited through the help we could extend.

“The only freedom we’ve got is not to react to anything, but to turn within and know the truth.” – Robert Adams

Positive Visualization Technique for Hair Growth

As promised in the previous post (Hypnotherapy Treatment for Hair Loss), here is a positive visualization technique for hair growth. This technique is for a receding hairline. It can help slow down baldness as well as promote the growth of hairline forward towards the forehead. This is a technique I personally used.

THE TECHNIQUE

Positive Visualization Technique for Healthy and Beautiful Hair!
Positive Visualization Technique for Healthy and Beautiful Hair!

The positive visualization technique is simple. Just stand before a mirror. Examine the hair growth near the temples just above your sideburns. This is a place where hair is always thick and lush. If you notice bald heads, the hair just above the sideburns is the last to fall or usually doesn’t fall at all. Get that visual of thick and rich hair and scalp above your sideburns firmly into your mind.

Now run three fingers into the hair near your temples. Make sure you touch the scalp there. While you are running your fingers into your hair and scalp above your sideburns, visualize that your fingers are picking up the energies or the ability of the hair growth on the scalp there, as if the thickness of hair there is contagious and it will spread into any area of your scalp your fingers will touch next. Do this visualization and rubbing for a few seconds.

Now use the same three fingers and lightly rub them into the scalp wherever the hairline is receding. Run the fingers through the hair with forward motions from inside the hairline towards the bald scalp all the while visualizing that the area you are rubbing is getting infected with good health of the scalp and thickness of the hair that your fingers picked up over the sideburns. Visualize the health is spreading fast into the whole area.

Repeat the process a few times over. Running your fingers into your scalp above the sideburns while visualizing the health is contagious and then running the same fingers into the receding hairline in forward motions visualizing the health is spreading into this area.

Get away from the mirror immediately. Avoid lingering in front of the mirror after the visualization is over. This can cause to bring the old habit of brooding over the baldness and filling your head with negative affirmations. Avoid that.

Do this positive visualization for a few weeks. You will soon notice that the hairline is moving forward again and the hair is growing thicker too.

IMPORTANT TIPS TO MAKE THE POSITIVE VISUALIZATION A SUCCESS:

Imagination more important than physical action: More than the action rubbing the fingers into the hair, the imagination that health is contagious and that it is spreading as soon as you touch the fingers over the receding hairline.

Work on half inch of bald scalp at a time: Work step by step with a little area at a time. Start with rubbing bald scalp just up to half inch before the hairline. This will help you keep the visualization real and believable in the beginning. Once you see new hair growth, you will have enough confidence to cover more bald areas without losing the believability.

Stop checking: This is the trick that can bring great results. Stop checking whether the technique is working or not for a period of three to four weeks after you started the positive visualization technique. This will help you keep away from losing confidence on the technique as well as help you keep the negative suggestions to a minimum. After we start noticing our hair loss, we increase the stress often by brooding negatively in front of a mirror whenever we find an opportunity. Avoid this as much as you can for the next few weeks.

Be very consistent: As much as the success of this positive visualization technique for hair growth depends on the visualization that much the success also relies on consistency of the exercise. You can do this exercise just once a day or multiple times on days when you find time. But repeating this exercise at least once a day over a few weeks, say 3-4 weeks, is very important.

Of course, if there is a lot of stress and anxiety currently in your life due to some other issues, then it will help to undergo guided hypnotherapy sessions along with this technique in order to deal with stored anxiety and to learn to manage stress through relaxation techniques like self-hypnosis, meditation, etc.

I personally found great results with this positive visualization technique whenever I used it. It worked every time I used it. I also got positive reports from clients who used this technique.

Photo Courtesy:
artur84 at freedigitialphotos.net

Hypnotherapy Treatment for Hair Fall

Positive Visualization and Hypnotherapy can help in promoting healthy hair growth.
Positive Visualization and Hypnotherapy can help in promoting healthy hair growth.

One of the best uses of Hypnotherapy lies in using it to improve health and performance through positive affirmations, visualization and Self Hypnosis. Hypnotherapy and positive affirmations can fetch great results for physical health and well-being.

One such great application is use of positive visualization in controlling hair fall or even promoting hair growth. One of the major reasons for hair loss is stress and anxiety. There are other reasons too like hereditary, poor health and diet, etc. Even in these cases anxiety can accelerate the hair fall tremendously.

Hypnotherapy is a very safe method to reduce hair fall as well as promote hair growth. It has absolutely no side effects and also decreases the overall stress and anxiety levels of the clients.

Using visualization techniques, positive affirmations, and self-hypnosis, clients see a significant hair growth and also increase the health of the hair condition. The course of hair loss treatment can last over a few weeks or longer depending on severity of the issue and the response rate.

One important factor in having better results is attitude of the client towards the therapy. The more positive a client is towards the therapy the better the results. Hypnotherapy relies on power of suggestion and the readiness of the client to accept such suggestions. Hair loss being caused by anxiety and other temporary causes like poor diet, etc. respond well to the program. Some hair fall conditions may not be worked through hypnotherapy.

In the next post I shall share a very simple visualization technique to promote hair growth in receding hairlines.

At Purple Room Healing we are conducting guided hypnotherapy and positive visualization programs for hair loss and hair growth starting this month in Chennai. You can contact us on 9500117031 during weekdays between 10 am and 5 pm.

Suggested Readings:

Hypnotherapy and Physical Diseases

Photo Courtesy:
Ambro at freedigitalphotos.net

The Cinderella Syndrome

ImageImagine this: A poor lonely girl sitting alone by herself on a starlit night full of sorrow and suffering. She is quietly weeping for herself and her pitiable condition. She has nobody to talk to and everybody around her is treating her badly including her family. She hopes somebody would come to her aid. She is yearning for her prince and savior to come along and save her from her plight. Someone who would love her with all his heart and make her worthy of her life. This is the Cinderella Syndrome.

We all know the Cinderella story. The poor fatherless girl mistreated by her step-mother and made to scrub the floor all day. She yearns for a better life and weeps all night long. One day her step-sisters go to the ball at the palace. Cinderella wishes she could go to the ball too. And lo, a fairy godmother appears and turns Cinderella’s rags into a lovely dress, and rats and pumpkin into horses and a chariot. Cinderella dances with the prince at the ball who is taken by her beauty. By the hour of midnight, heeding the warning of the Fairy godmother, Cinderella rushes out of the ball leaving behind her glass slipper. The prince has his staff search for the girl whose foot would fit the glass slipper. Cinderella’s foot fits and she is married to the prince, and she lives ever after.

ImageThe Cinderella Syndrome is a real life situation of a fatherless girl who was unconsciously playing the Cinderella for real. Unfortunately, Cinderella stories don’t end well in reality. This girl had prince after prince coming to her rescue but they would then eventually desert her and go.

This happens because her mind had to survive her identity which she formed of herself from early childhood. And that identity was that of a lonely, suffering girl who is hurt by near and dear again and again. Once the mind forms an identity for the person, its goal is to keep it alive – to keep both the body and the identity alive. So for this girl, in spite of yearning and manifesting princes into her life, her mind has to still keep her lonely and suffering, hurt by near and dear. Now the near and dear also include her romantic relationships. Yet her desperation to get out of the situation is also real.

So she battles with herself endlessly. She manages to attract guys who would take advantage of her desperation and then dump her. She would be left once more the poor Cinderella. After a few repeated such incidents she has a fear of relationships which all the more helps her to remain the suffering Cinderella.

Real life Cinderella is helpless by choice, derives melancholic enjoyment of her loneliness, noble in her own view due to her uncomplaining (not entirely) suffering. Her self-pity, self-hatred, and her pride keep her remaining that way.

There is only one way for real life Cinderellas to get out of this miserable loop – to decide not to be a Cinderella in the first place. They need to give up their life story. They need to look beneath the voids they carry within to find out their true self. The Cinderella Syndrome is an addiction to pain.

Most real life Cinderellas carry a deep void within. They wait for an outside hero to come and fill that void. This is their second mistake. The first and their biggest mistake is in assuming they are the void within. Instead of trying to fill the void, they need to question the reality of the void they carry within. Is she the identity she formed in her childhood? Or is she somebody else? Can she, as a life, survive if that identity is snatched away from her? The day real life Cinderellas can give a yes to the last question, they can effectively come out of their troubles and heal their lives.

Self Pity and Self Hatred: Two Dangerous Extremes

feeling sorry for oneselfLow self-esteem issues are quite common to my practice. In fact, all therapies in one way or the other have to do with self-image. And when we suffer from a low self-esteem problem and are unable to resolve it, we manage to cover it from the world by taking a defensive stand. Some become reserved and gruff, some put up a false intellectual front, some pretend to be uber happy, and some turn shy and silent, and then there are hundred other ways to cover it up.

Dealing with self-esteem issues or any issue for that matter is not a big deal if we are really willing to resolve our problems. But there are times when some of us tend to take an extreme stand about themselves after years of struggling with issues. One one extreme is self pity and other self hatred.

From a healing point of view, both are really dangerous attitudes. Because they not only prevent us from effectively resolving our issues but also become a very important reason why we are facing issues also. Let us see how.

Self pity is a sorry state. A person with self pity begins to see himself in a sorry state and as a figure of sacrifice. He feels he is a helpless victim of any situation and believes he would remain so. He often spends time in pitying himself and blaming others for his plight. He comes to feel so bad for himself so much that they readily accept the victim’s role as a part of who they are.

And once that happens, they continue to attract situations where they can play victims. The mind always makes true what it believes. It manipulates situations and people around to fulfill its needs and beliefs. So once the person believes he is a victim, he unconsciously seeks to worm himself into situations where he could become one. It is like if you become a doctor, you need to treat patients to justify your role. So you set up a medical practice and start seeking people with illnesses. Much similarly, the mind starts looking for situations and people who would victimize it so the self-pity is justified. These people carry a lot of resentment and anger within.

self hatredSelf hatred also works similarly but on the opposite side of the scale. Person who hates herself usually start playing the role of a perpetrator. She needs to justify her hatred. She just starts looking for victims and situations where she could have reasons to hate herself. In her mind, it’s all her fault! These people also carry a lot of guilt. They also carry a need to punish themselves.

People on these two extremes have a need to make sad stories of their lives. The truth is that need is neither ‘subconscious’ or ‘unconscious’. There is no need for a hypnotherapy regression or ‘psychological evaluation’ to bring up this need to the surface. All one has to do is to watch their thoughts and the motivations will be readily seen. If you can watch your thoughts with complete honesty – which means without denying or resisting them in any way – you can readily find out if you are carrying any of these traits in you. By watching your thoughts, you can also easily realize how you are manipulating yourself into a victim’s or a perpetrator’s role

This becomes the first block to any healing or therapy.  This needs to go in order to resolve other issues in your life. How can self pity and self hatred be healed? All you need is consistent refusal to take that attitude. Be alert in your head and watch your thoughts keenly. The moment you start feeling sorry for yourself and anger for situation or the moment you start cursing yourself and feel severe guilt, just move into the present moment and refuse to take that attitude. Be consistent and you can easily come out of that viewpoint.

Suggested Readings:
Emotional Drama
Power of Manifestation
It’s too late now!

Picture Courtesy: David Castillo Dominici @ freedigitalphotos.net

Personalized Reiki Healing Workshop – 29, 30 Dec 2012

Our previous personalized Reiki Workshop in Chennai
Our previous personalized Reiki Workshop in Chennai

Successfully end this year by becoming a Reiki Healer. Set your own spiritual path by learning this self healing technique.

A personalized Reiki Healing Level 1 and 2 Workshop is being conducted at our premises in Besant Nagar (Near Adyar), Chennai on this 29th and 30th of December, 2012 (Saturday and Sunday). Personalized workshop means the number of seats are limited to maximum 6 people only. The attunements are done one-on-one. No group attunements. Ample time for practice in the workshop. Lunch is provided by us at the premises during the Reiki classes.

Reiki is a Japanese form of Alternative Healing System where the Reiki Healer channelizes healing energies into the client to heal an assortment of issues. Reiki also promotes general and spiritual well-being of a person, improves health, relieves stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety are the root causes for many ailments physical, mental as well as emotional. More about Reiki Healing and Reiki FAQs.

Course Contents:

Day 1

Introduction to Japanese Gasho Meditation
Introduction to Energy Healing and Body Mind Connection (Holisitic Healing Methodology)
Basics of Chakra System, Aura, and Higher Self
Hand Positions for Reiki Self Healing
Reiki Attunement by Reiki Master
Hand Positions for Treating Others
Aura Scanning Technique
Cord Cutting Technique for self protection
Practice on Self Healing
Hands-on Practice on one another

Day 2

Introduction to Symbols of Advanced Healing
Use of Symbols
Beaming Reiki to others
Reiki Level 2 Attunement
Introduction to Spirit Guides
Energy Clearing Techniques
Detecting and cleansing energies attached to houses and places.
Cleansing Crystals with Reiki
How to give a Full Treatment for a Client
Reiki Box for Healing many issues at a time

Attunement by Reiki Master in Level 1 makes you a Reiki healer and you can start healing yourself and others through hands-on healing method. In level 2 your Reiki flow is improved and you gain the ability to do distance healing – wherein the client need not be physically present for a healing session. Reiki is a wonderful tool to heal yourself, your family, friends, and others.

Those interested may call Kiran @ 9500117031 for details & registration. No spot registrations. Please read the Reiki FAQs before you call so you can be clear on what is Reiki and if it is suitable for you.

Our Mosquito Minds!

It is said that a mosquito lives and dies within 200 meters from where it was born. Human mind is very similar to a mosquito in this aspect. Most of our lives we carry, repeat, and enhance the same patterns of emotions and beliefs that we formed in our childhood. We hardly ever venture out beyond the habituated confines of our minds.

The events may seem varied and the people we encounter different but the core emotional makeup and belief system remains more or less the same. We form ‘ruts’, so to speak, in our minds and every day we travel the same worn pathways deepening the furrows further and further.

A person with a belief that he is worthless only continues to strengthen that belief by doing everything to disprove it.

A person who hates herself continues to attract situations that only prove her ‘unworthiness’.

A ‘vulnerable’ person gets more hurt in spite all the defensive ‘shells’ they form and creep into.

An ‘unlucky’ person finds ‘misfortune’ all his life.

All the education we gain, all the worldly knowledge we acquire, all the travels we make only serve to strengthen our beliefs and emotions about ourselves and the world.

Rarely do we come across individuals who have broken the ruts and widened their horizons. For, in order to get out of our programmed thoughts and to see real internal progress we need to do extraordinary things.

Not extraordinary things outside of us, but within.

As creatures of comfort, we may be motivated to perform great feats in the outside world, but we dread going inwards. And true change cannot come until the mind goes inward and questions its own beliefs.

Self-limiting beliefs that you carry can certainly incite you to achieve money, education, prosperity, and all other ‘successes’ but remember they are the ones that are causing and will continue to cause severe emotional discontent and stress. If internal peace and sense of well-being is what you really after, then go within.

If you feel worthless, question your definition of worthlessness!

If you hate yourself, then ask why you can’t accept yourself in spite of all ‘defects’ that you carry! Then challenge every ‘standard’ you ‘failed’ and hated yourself consequently.

Walk away from the furrowed emotional pathways; challenge every belief you hold sacred!  Only then can you find inner peace blossoming and true progress happening.

Suggested Reading:

Frustration: Shortcut to Failure

Power of Manifestation

How We Manifest Our Troubles!

 

Photo Courtesy: freedigitalphotos.net

 

What Should Be and What Is – The Eternal Human Conflict

Every problem that we face no matter how big or small it is arises out of the conflict between our ‘What Should Be’ and what is.

  • When we are on the track of ‘What Is’ and focus on the tracks ‘What Should Be’ …accidents happen.

    I should have my keys! I lost my keys!

  • My car shouldn’t have a flat tire! It does!
  • I should be getting more income! I am getting less!
  • My neighbor should mind his own business! He doesn’t!
  • My wife should do all the household chores! She isn’t!
  • My husband should support me financially! He isn’t!
  • My spouse should understand me! The spouse doesn’t!
  • My son should get better marks! He isn’t!
  • My daughter should dress properly! She doesn’t!
  • My parents should give me more freedom! They aren’t!
  • I should be healthy! I am diseased!
  • She should have been alive! She’s dead!

All the clients that ever came to me, all the problems I ever sought to resolve in my life – everything came down to a conflict between ‘What Should Be’ and what is.

No matter what help we resort to for our troubles, be it Allopathy, Ayurveda, Reiki, Hypnotherapy, Self-Help books, Psychological Counselors, a well-wisher’s advice, Angel Therapy, Cognitive Therapy, Critical Analysis, Astrology, Chakra Healing, Divination, it is always because we cannot accept what is and we have a ‘What Should Be’ in our head.

But have we ever once stopped to question our very ‘What Should Be’ beliefs?

Have we ever once thought why can we not simply accept what is?

We are so caught up in the denying, resisting, fighting with, attempting to change the ‘what is’ that we never for once sat back and asked ourselves why should anything be any other way that it is! We never questioned the standards! We never thought why can’t we simply accept what is!

Which standard says that human being should be healthy always? Is that a biological law? If it is, why, then, aren’t we always healthy? Why then must we die?

Who said that relationships must be the way we expect them to be? Is it a natural law of the universe? Don’t you realize that your relationship is lousy just because you are trying to make the other person confirm to your expectations of that role?

When you look deeper into the problem, we find that all the ‘What Should Be’ beliefs are all acquired standards. We picked them up in the process of growing up and learning to cope with this world. They are all mere beliefs. Yet they become our moral and social commandments of life. We seek to fulfill them at the cost of sacrificing who we are.

Some may say it is a conflict between ‘What I Want’ and what is. I’ve noticed ‘What I Want’ is either defined by ‘What Should Be’ or it becomes that.

The roots go deeper still until they touch our very egos. But we never want to go that deep. We just want to be on the surface and depend on our ‘What Should Be’s to define our happiness.

The truth is there is greater freedom in learning to accept what is. That does not mean we cannot or must not change what is. But in learning to accept, we lose our ‘What Should Be’ and then what needs to be actually done for the situation will become clear. It might be changing the situation or it might be simply being in the acceptance. In some cases if we accept the situation, the situation changes without any apparent effort on our part (except for the acceptance, of course).

Isn’t accepting everything that comes a loser’s way?

Where did you get your definition of losing and success from? Merely another ‘What Should Be’ standard!

And if we accept a situation just because the situation will change by acceptance, then we are still hanging on to a ‘What Should Be’.

Next time you have an issue just, for once, try accepting the reality of what is.

What do I mean by acceptance? Just be! Stop resisting. Just be. And see what happens!

Remember, when you are accepting, you must really let go of your ‘What Should Be’ for that particular situation. Otherwise, you are merely pretending to accept. You still haven’t come down into the reality.

Further Reading:

Emotional Drama

It’s Too Late Now

2012: The year of Freewill and Choice

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Power of Manifestation – Part 3 – Common Pitfalls

Common pitfalls while learning positive manifestation are using negative words and thoughts, manifesting at the last minute, expecting permanent changes too fast. Click on title to read in detail…

“I am NOT angry!” – dwelling on the negative.

Dwelling on the negative

The greatest pitfall! When an angry person keeps repeating to himself, “I am not angry! I am not angry!” He is dwelling on the anger. A person who says, “I am peaceful and calm” is getting it right. But at the same time after manifesting to be peaceful, if you still go ahead and try to measure how much your anger has reduced, you are still dwelling on the negative. Dwell on the peace you are finding instead!

Manifesting changes in reaction of self but not the world around

This is the second greatest pitfall! Taking the above example of angry person manifesting peace further, if this person keeps creating a mental picture of him being peaceful despite his boss or some family member provoking him, then he is manifesting the wrong way! Remember, in your mind your world is under your control. So if you manifest the above, then you are still manifesting your boss or your family member to be mean to you. Instead, manifest having made peace with them too and you being a peaceful person!

Manifesting at the last minute

Last minute manifestations need more effort.

By the time you start manifesting the positive changes you are already down the path of the negative manifestation. Let me explain by an example. You are trying to stop the habit of falling asleep during the afternoons. If you start manifesting that only when your eyes start drooping, you are manifesting at the last minute. Doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work. But you need to put extra effort. So by the time we are manifesting to stay awake, the old manifestation to fall asleep after lunch is already becoming a reality. Learn to start manifesting earlier, perhaps during the day much ahead of lunch. Of course, as you become stronger in positive manifestation, you will start questioning the need to sleep during the afternoons. Why did the need arise at all?

Expecting one manifestation exercise to change your core belief

Manifestations works wonderfully; in fact, as we discussed in earlier posts, our entire life is filled with manifestation of reality by our subconscious based on our beliefs. But what many people think is that if they do a single manifestation exercise to create a positive reality it will change their negative belief they had been carrying within.

The negative belief that you are trying to change is an age old belief. So expecting it to change with just one manifestation is unreasonable. The positive manifestation works every time you do it properly, but it requires a consistent repetition of many such positive manifestations for you to affect the core belief itself. It might get frustrating at times to see the negative belief surfacing up in spite of repeated efforts to think positive. Remember, frustration is the subconscious mind’s way to tricking you into giving up. (Read Frustration: The Shortcut to Failure).

Suggested Readings:

Frustration: The Shortcut to Failure
House of Cards Effect
How We Manifest Our Own Troubles

Photo Courtesy: farconville and Salvatore Vuono @ freedigitalphotos.net

Power of Manifestation – Part 2 – Positive Manifestation

The power of manifestation is inherent in all of us. All we need to do is to harvest it and turn it to our advantage. Click on the title to read more about how to manifest positively…

Earlier we examined how nearly everything that happens to us is a result of our own manifestations at the subconscious level. It simply means that we have immense power to create our lives just the way we want it. But since we are programmed with a lot of self-limiting beliefs while growing up, we tend to manifest many situations to our disadvantage.

What we need to learn and master is the art of positive manifestation. With persistence, positive manifestation can even change your deep rooted beliefs about yourself and the laws of life. So how do we manifest positive events in our lives?

We start by first identifying and eliminating all the negative manifestations that we have created in our lives. Simple way to look for negative manifestations is by looking for patterns in our lives. Look for similar situations that we repeatedly put ourselves into. These are the situations we are creating. For instance, routinely getting caught in traffic, being late for office almost daily, fighting with our spouse every weekend, etc.

Before you start curbing this manifestation, understand what the situation is trying to teach you. Do you need to be more assertive? Do you need to spend time on planning before you act? Should you try to understand the needs of your partner or family members better? Don’t analyse the situation too much. Usually the solution is something simple and clear within you. Just ask yourself what you need to learn and the answer will pop from within. Make sure you learn before you go about stopping the negative manifestation.

Here’s how you stop negative manifestation. Run the whole situation in your head. Think of the reasons why the situation occurs. You may feel inclined to blame time and people. Unless you take personal responsibility you cannot change the situation. So now focus on yourself and think why you are creating this situation repeatedly. You will find a subconscious belief within you which is dictating this situation.

Now go about changing the situation in your mind. Replace all the negative elements in that situation with positive visualizations. For instance, if you are in the habit of arriving late to office, imagine that you are reaching at least ten minutes earlier and you are having ample time to relax yourself before beginning the day’s work. Create that visualization as convincingly as possible. You may find your mind throwing objections.

‘It’s Monday morning, there will be heavy traffic on the way.’

‘My spouse always delays breakfast.’

‘I have to hunt for fifteen minutes for a parking space.’

Brush aside all objections and recreate your visualization in your head. See yourself arriving on time. Do it again and again. Now let go of the imagination. They key to successful manifestation lies in creating an absolutely positive visualization and then letting it go. You may write a great mail but you cannot get a reply unless you send the mail. So let go of the visualization. Repeat the process of visualising the positive and letting go every time a negative objection enters your head. Don’t argue with your head, you cannot win such arguments! Just brush aside the negative thoughts and visualize the positive once more. Wait for the results. You will soon be surprised with how you can change situations in your life.

In the next post, I will discuss common pitfalls we encounter in the early stages of learning positive manifestation.

Suggested Reading:

Mind Drama
Anger Management 

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Power of Manifestation – Part 1

We are hardly aware that nearly every experience we have in life is a product of our own manifestation. Unless we look back at the recurring patterns in our lives, we cannot really see the truth or be aware of the immense power we have at our disposal. Click on the title to read more…

Every thought of ours has a ripple effect!

Nearly everything that happens to us is our creation. On the outside we may believe circumstances or people around us are responsible for certain experiences we go through in life. Looking at a situation in isolation certainly portrays it so. However, if you just take a step back and look at the whole picture called ‘life’ the truth becomes apparent.

How is it that we continually become victims in certain situations? Some of us repeatedly find ourselves in financial crunches. Some of us inevitably become the scapegoat of office politics. Some of us are regular victims of bullying. Some of us end up in only bad relationships. Some of us always get caught in the traffic.

Isn’t it uncanny that nature, fate, or people around always know to pick on you? When you look at an isolated situation of your boss bypassing you for a promotion it certainly looks like he’s been playing politics. But when you look at the pattern of similar events in your life where you never received what you deserved in your career, isn’t that too much of a coincidence? What is the common factor in all of these events? You!

Our subconscious has the ability to manifest into reality what it believes to be true. A person who believes that tragedy follows every happy situation in life, his subconscious makes it true. How does it exactly achieve such feats may be explained by rationality alone. It is true that, through our body language, facial reactions, and our general interactions with the world around we communicate our beliefs and personality.

For instance, a person who suffers from low self-esteem and believes she will never get approval from her family will always put forward a body behaviour which invites disapproval. She manages to get herself into situations where she will be disapproved for her actions. She attracts relationships that will prove her beliefs right.

In the next post, let us examine how to use this power of manifestation to our advantage and learn to manifest what we want in life.

Suggested Readings:

Mind Drama
How We Manifest Our Own Troubles

Photo Courtesy: Salvatore Vuono @ freedigitalphotos.net

It’s too late now!

Understand, if you are saying ‘it’s too late’ for any change, it simply means you are comfortable being miserable or are too afraid to change. Probably it’s both! Click on title to read more…

Time – our excuse to escape change! But can we escape?

“Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There’s still time to change the road you’re on
And it makes me wonder” Stairway to Heaven

I hear this often from a lot of clients:

“I can’t change my career path…it’s too late for that!”

“I can’t change! It’s too late now!”

“I can’t get married anymore, I’m too old marriage!”

“Our relationship cannot change. It’s too late!”

Then why do you even come for therapy?

If you feel it’s too late, then accept your fate and learn to like it! If not, change your fate!

When we see a beautiful image on Facebook with a quote that reads “It’s never too late to change who you are!”, we immediately click like, share it to the world, and feel smug about it. But when it comes to our own lives we always have the excuse “It’s too late!”

We all know it’s never too late. We are so comfortable in our uncomfortable and fearful existence that we do not want to come out of it. Hence the excuse ‘it’s too late’.

Remember, the day you said ‘it’s too late’ is the day you decided shirk responsibility for your issues. You just want to stay where you are because it gives you the perfect opportunity to grumble, snort, sneer, cry,  complain, and be miserable. You both like where you are and are too much of a coward to change who you are.

Every moment in life is a perfect opportunity for change and in fact, life makes sure you keep getting opportunities one after the other after the other just to help you change. But as the old saying goes, you can take a horse to the lake but you cannot make it drink, the decision to take action is yours!

I have had a client in his late 60’s who was ready to dig up and deal with childhood issues and gave up his 40 year old addiction of tobacco chewing. I have also had a 25 year old client who told me it was too late to learn to deal with his colleagues in office and walked out of my room and six months later he hung himself to death!

Choose where you want to be! Now is a perfect opportunity to change! 

Suggested Readings:

Comparing a 5th Grader with a Post Graduate?

House of Cards Effect

Social Averages

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2012, the year of freewill and choice!

2011 whizzed past us but not without teaching us significant lessons for our evolution. This year we are into a different belt of learning altogether. With the commencement 2012, the energies shifted subtly from trust to freewill. We are back at the helm of our lives and we are absolutely free to steer us where we will. It is a year of paradigm shift but that shift is not collective.

2011 whizzed past us but not without teaching us significant lessons for our evolution. Each of us crossed great milestones be it in our spiritual progress or our material one. Perhaps at a point, some of us even realized there is no difference between the two.

One of the most important lessons we all learnt was trust the divine. Of course, for each of us the divine took a distinct, and a more personal, form. Some of us called it the universe, some have called it the white light, others said it was God, and more have called it the Higher Self or Higher Consciousness. Though the perceptive form was different the source was the same. We all learnt to trust in something beyond us. We learnt to stop controlling too much and to trust and to flow with the course of events.

And by trusting we received more. What was not in sync with our higher good dropped out or fell away, while what was to be in our lives flowed easily. We gained a greater resonance with the creation and the creator; our psychic abilities and intuitive sense suddenly leapt out of the deep slumber and galloped.

Year of Freewill!

This year we are into a different belt of learning altogether. With the commencement 2012, the energies shifted subtly from trust to freewill. We are back at the helm of our lives and we are absolutely free to steer us where we will. It is a year of paradigm shift but that shift is not collective. We would be mistaken in envisioning fantastic events beyond our control manoeuvring us towards a great change more in accordance with the universe. No! It is a year of paradigm shift in that it begins with each individual undergoing great personal change that would reshape our personalities, goals and evolutionary paths. And as more individuals make the right choice the shift turns global and collective. Imagine series of tiny tube lights set in geometric shapes. Each beginning to flicker and finally glow one by one. Once all the tubes light up the whole shift from darkness to the light is complete!

Our Personal Choices!

These personal changes are not without a choice. Each of us have a choice and each of us is the master of our destinies. We can choose to move ahead or stay back. This is a year of clear cut decisions and the Universe has decided not to interfere against our wills. The responsibility is upon us. We manifest our fortunes! If last year we knew we couldn’t reach some of our goals because we were not meant to; this year any obstacles to our goals could simply mean we manifested them or must try another approach to our goals.

With freewill comes great manifestation abilities; but that is where our sharpened psychic senses and intuitive abilities from 2011 come our rescue. Having connected with our higher selves in the previous year, the messages of what is our right path for ascension will be clear and precise. This year trains our ability to heed that voice within and make the right choices. 2011 was the year of tuning to the messages within, 2012 is the year to follow them. From philosophy to action!

Does that mean I can make wrong choices?

Yes and No! Yes, we can make wrong choices but not without knowing they are wrong choices. Not without being informed the choice is not in rapport with our highest good. No, we cannot make wrong choices because we will know how each choice will affect us in the future. Last year has made sure we have that ability. That wisdom gives us the power to manifest what is for our highest good and to steer ourselves clear of wrong paths.

If we want to still go ahead and make a wrong choice, of course the universe is allowing us to do that this year, unlike in 2011. But that is precisely what makes this year exciting, wonderful, and spiritually uplifting! We are free! We are the masters of our destinies! We have real choices and we can do what we will of our lives!

Will the Universe not support us this year?

No, this is the year when the Universe is absolutely behind us! That is why whatever choices we make this year, we will find them manifesting into our lives, into our realities!

If you have fears of such power, just manifest that the universe gently nudge you every now and then when you are straying from the path. It will happen! But you still are responsible for the choices you make. The universe will just play the reminder clock in the snooze mode!

Believe your intuitive abilities and psychic senses were not tuned enough?

Trust yourself! There was no one who made it through 2011 who is without any intuitive abilities and gifts. It is just that you haven’t recognized them yet! Perhaps you think intuition involves sudden and vivid flashes of mental images and memories. While it is true that some people, who are highly visual, do get intuitive messages in such a dramatic fashion, for most of us it is more common place and straightforward. Because intuition is not a special gift reserved only for the specially chosen people; it is as common as common sense and equally less used!

Remember a time when you first met a person, something inside you told you cannot trust that person and you finally turned out to be right? Remember when something within said a specific question would be asked in your exam or interview and it turned out to be true? Remember a time when you knew what other person is about to say before that person would even open the lips? If that is not intuition, then you’ve misunderstood the meaning of the word!

Trust yourself! There is no great year than 2012 to learn to do that!

So we all begin this exciting journey of writing out life stories on the canvas of time and making it to our chosen destinies. Having said all about right and wrong choices, remember one thing – no choice will stop your progress! It only some choices speed you up while others slow you down. Still, whatever choices we’ve made, we are all going home! To the Light!

Love and Light
Wiccan Healing Team

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Do you deserve to be healed?

Often our subconscious blocks healing just because we feel we don’t deserve to be healed! Get out of this foolish judgmental behavior!

Often we get ready to deal with issue in our lives but fail to ask that crucial question – Do I deserve to be healed? Am I worth receiving this healing? And failing to ask it becomes a mistake in many cases. Because it is a question that runs in the subconscious of many of us and the answer for that question, a lot of times is, no! And it is not the therapist who gives that answer; it is the client’s themselves.

We have all grown up with a lot of SEER programming – Socio Economic Educational and Religious programming. And as a part of that programming we are taught very early in life about guilt and punishment, and about merit and worth. We are told we receive only when we deserve it. We receive gifts when we deserve them and punishment when we deserve it.

We grow up to be judges of our own merits and faults. We grow up with a sense of who deserves what. So we end up asking a question as stupid as this – Do I deserve to be healed?

A Practical Exercise

I have had many clients who stopped just short of resolving their issues only because they feel they don’t deserve. And it is not just the area of healing this question is being asked. We apply this foolish question on many other areas of our life and block our happiness.

Do this exercise; just go and stand before a mirror and ask yourself the following:

Do I deserve to be rich?
Do I deserve such a happy life?
Do I deserve a wonderful partner?
Do I deserve mercy?
Do I deserve miracles in life?

Do I deserve to be poor?
Do I deserve the biggest issue I have in my life?
Do I deserve to be slapped on my face?
Do I deserve to be punished?

You can be surprised at the answers you give.

How do you stop this attitude?

It’s time to let go of this ‘eye for an eye’ judgemental attitude. And how do you do this? Stop judging people! As long you pronounce judgements on others’ lives you will continue to do so, even more so, with your own life.

And begin to look upon yourself as if you were a third person. Because we find many times it is easy to forgive others but not ourselves. The moment we look at ourselves as a third person, it is easy to be lenient on our own merits and demerits.

And work yourself out of the childhood programming you received. This can happen only if you turn open minded enough to question every ‘moral and social value’ that was programmed in you. Start today, it is never too late!

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Social Aver‘ages’ – Part 2

Once we realize Social Aver‘ages’ are just averages not benchmarks it is easy for us to get rid of our subconscious beliefs with some consistent effort.

 

Family Averages

If you haven’t read Part 1, read it here.

It is practically impossible for any single human to meet all Social Aver‘ages’. It is like striving to be a Common Man. None of us liked to be called a common man yet we all strive to meet average expectations of the society.

Some people may achieve professional success according to expectations but cannot meet that in family life. Some people have tremendous success in family but fail at personal aver’ages’. Each of us is unique.

Another important aspect to be aware of is that a social aver‘age’ is not a biological aver‘age’.  Socially the aver‘age’ of pairing and reproduction varies from culture to culture. However, a person is biologically ready to reproduce when he/she attains puberty which is roughly around ages 10 to 13. You must be worried if you do not attain puberty even by 18, not if you can’t get married by 30.

So the first step to getting rid of Social Aver‘ages’ from your subconscious is to understand Social Aver‘ages’ are all just averages not benchmarks. There is no harm in sticking to them but if we fail to achieve them it is okay too.

It is also important to understand that as long as we place emphasis on what our friends, relatives and neighbours talk about us, we cannot really shake Social Aver‘ages’ out of our heads. And as I said in the earlier post, more than others it is the critic within who needs to be silenced. It means we also need stop judging others based on Social Aver‘ages’.

Effort is the next logical step. Whenever you find you are comparing or criticising yourself or others on basis of the Social Aver‘ages’, stop and review your opinions. This can happen only if you are committed to change.

A Social Aver‘age’ is a deep rooted belief – at foundation level. So it will keep popping up consistently and your efforts need to be that consistent too. You keep doing this with persistence, you will soon find that your issues based on Social Aver‘ages’ coming down and you are able to live life with much more personal freedom.

Just keep the awareness going in your head and you are bound to change your core beliefs! Expect setbacks because they could happen. Read my blog on House of Cards Effect to know facts about how, because of a false assumption, we easily give up on resolving our problems.

Lastly, if you are a parent please stop pressurising your children on the basis of Social Aver‘ages’. We therapists get too many disappointed parents and discouraged youngsters.

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Frustration: The shortcut to failure

Frustration is the real enemy that thwarts our attempts towards success. It can also be used to motivate yourself but you need to be very careful in such an endeavor.

Here’s a failure scenario:

Sam is a young man who wants to get rid of chronic negative thinking. So he reads some mind management techniques online and finds motivation. He decides that he is going to be a changed man free from negative thoughts and starts applying the techniques he’s learnt with rigorous zeal. His first attempt fails; he perseveres. His second attempt fails; he perseveres. His third attempt fails and he gets disappointed but not discouraged; he perseveres. His fourth attempt fails; he begins to get frustrated. Doubts about success begin in Sam’s head. But he still decides to forge ahead. His fifth attempt fails. This time Sam gets really irritated. Somewhere he begins to believe he would never succeed. He decides to try once more. His seventh failure breaks his resolve. He bursts out in frustration. In frustration he gives up and concludes that negative thinking is a part of his nature and there is nothing he can do about it. Instantly he is barraged with a volley of negative thoughts to ‘prove his point’.

Doesn’t this scenario sound familiar or, perhaps, even personal?

 

Frustration is a double edged sword. We can use it to motivate us or to…well, frustrate us! We need to use it carefully or keep it at bay altogether. For frustration easily thwarts our attempts to change ourselves.

When we are attempting to resolve an issue within, say like negative thinking or anger, we are in fact attempting to change a belief or trying to get rid of a strong habit that is coming from the subconscious mind. Now the subconscious, though an extremely powerful part of our mind, cannot discriminate right from wrong. So any suggestions put into it, provided there are no opposing stronger beliefs, it simply executes that belief like a computer executes a program. The subconscious makes our beliefs true and keeps on doing it until we alter the beliefs. So it is but natural that it takes consistent conscious effort on our part to resolve these issues. But it is also natural that as humans we tend to get impatient. However, if we let that impatience and frustration convince us to give up working towards an issue then we can never be free from our problems.

The second reason why frustration comes so easily is because of a false belief that we all tend to hold. We believe that when we fail all our previous efforts towards resolving an issue are wasted and, essentially, “we are back to square one”. That is a false belief. And that very belief is enough to keep us forever in the issue loop.

We tend to assume efforts to change ourselves is like building a house of cards and one failure will cause the entire structure to come tumbling down. We exercise self-control for a long time and then suddenly the issue bursts out, and we think all our efforts have been wasted. Not a single resource in life is wasted by our mind. Every effort we put towards self-healing is a real learning for our mind as well as our body. We never ‘go back’ on an issue. We are constantly moving with every moment in life. Are we moving out of the issue or are we pulling ourselves deeper into the quagmire is the real question. Frustration only pushes us deeper into the issue.

The very knowledge that our efforts can never be wasted and that frustration is the real enemy can give you the power to overcome your frustration. Just carry this awareness in your head and constantly remind yourself of it in every attempt to change yourself. Next time you find frustration peeping into your head, just wag your finger at it and tell it get out. It is very easy to do once you learn frustration is the real enemy for success.

Setbacks are a part of life. Failure only comes when we actually give up.

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Exercises To Be Aware Of Semi Conscious Thoughts

Exercises to become aware of your semi conscious thoughts are simple yet extremely effective. All you need to practice them is application and consistency.

Image Courtesy: graur razvan ionut @ http://www.freedigitalphotos.netIn the last post I spoke of the necessity of training oneself to become aware of their semi-conscious thoughts. This post will look at some simple techniques that can be practised to bring the stream of semi conscious thought to conscious cognizance.

There is a reason why I prescribe the following techniques. The stream of semi conscious thoughts can at times be so subtle that training yourself to directly observe these thoughts can become a trying and frustrating endeavor. These techniques are relatively easy to follow and they teach you to review your thoughts just after you have had these thoughts. With enough practice you can become aware of your semi conscious thoughts as they occur. Reviewing our thoughts just after they occur is easier than being in a state of awareness as they thoughts flow through your mind.

Technique #1: Observe Your Breath

Breath is intimately connected with our thoughts and emotions. Fluctuations in breath indicate variations in our moods and emotions. Even the subtlest changes in our moods is reflected in our breath. This is no new technique. There are hundreds meditation courses that emphasize on this connection between the mind and breath. You would have already observed the fact that when you become angry your breath becomes short, shallow, and rapid. So by making use of this well known fact will help you achieve deeper awareness of self.

This technique is simple to practice. Start by observing your breath as you go about your daily routine. Observe what is your regular rate of breathing – are you a shallow breather or deep breather. Initially it takes a little conscious effort on your part to remember to be aware of your breath. But with a little consistent effort it will become second nature. After a few days of practice, whenever you observe a change in breath from normal, immediately stop whatever you are doing and cast your mind back over what your immediate thoughts had been. If you become aware of your breath sometime after the fluctuation occurred, then just cast your mind back to your thoughts just about the time the breath varied. It would be very easy to do, you just need to devote the time and effort.

Here are a few breath variations that you need to pay special attention to:

  • Shallow and Rapid breathing – this kind of breathing occurs when the body is undergoing some kind of anxiety or tension.
  • Sudden sharp intake and Holding of breath – indicative of fear or shock
  • Tightness in Breathing – this is indicative of fear as well as anxiety

Follow these symptoms backwards to when they started and what you were thinking at that time or just before it and you will easily go to the root thought.

Technique #2: Observe Subtle Body Movements
This technique is relatively easier to follow than the previous one. It also increases your awareness of your body language. Whenever we have negative, anxious, problematic thoughts these affect not only our breathing rate but also our body language. It manifests itself easily in the body extremities like hands and fingers, feet and toes. Practice being aware of these extremities and you will be able to detect variations in mood and emotions easily.

Watch for these movements:

  • Repetitive movements – like rubbing fingers/palms together, rubbing any object like chair handle, etc
  • Pressing actions – wringing hands, one foot pressing another foot, clutching objects like chair handle, etc
  • Nervous actions – watchout for subtle nervous actions in limb extremities

Also of use is the action of biting lips.

All of the above actions are indicative of stress or anxiety. Pressing actions are indicative of stress and continous actions like rubbing are indicative of anxious thoughts in the semi conscious thought stream. As soon as you become aware of them, just stop what you are doing and follow the action back to the time they started. You will easily know what upset you.

As you grow adept in observing your thoughts, you will notice that not only are you able to become aware of your semi conscious thoughts but also you find repetitive patterns in your thoughts. Most anxieties and stressful situations all boil down to two or three major root issues.

Being aware of your subtler thoughts will give you a deeper understanding of your personality, uncovering hidden dimensions of self that you either thought were not there or that you had already worked on the issue. It also gives you immense control over your self and the ability to manifest situations suited to your needs and evolution. Learning to be conscious of innermost thoughts of your being is the foremost step to self healing. Because, you cannot resolve a problem that you are not aware exists.

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Create your own happiness with Positive Manifestation

Positive Manifestation has four parts – belief, autosuggestion, imagination, and consistency of thoughts. Positive Manifestations can change your life forever!

I’ve discussed about the power of manifestation and how we use it to create our own troubles in life. Now let me give you the other side of the coin i.e., how we can use the same power of manifestation to generate positive outcome in our lives and also let us see how we can break old chains of negative manifestation.

There are four major parts to a successful manifestation – believe, give yourself autosuggestion, imagine, and maintain consistency of thought.

Believe: When we are manifesting a certain issue in our life, the first thing that we do is believe in the outcome so strongly that we are subconsciously preparing ourselves for the outcome. Similarly, belief plays a very strong role in creating positive manifestations also. But, how can we bring ourselves to believe in something when we are not certain of the outcome? How can we believe that we will hail an auto driver who would not demand extra fare? The truth is it is difficult or at times even impossible to believe. But a manifestation would not work without belief. Does that sound like a religious argument? You have to believe in God to realize him!

There is a simple alternative. Pretend you believe! Act as if you really believe that you are going to get into an Auto peacefully and pay a fair price. Pretend to believe you will have a pleasant chat with your boss. Slowly as the manifestations come true, you will find it easy to believe in creating situations of your choice.

Give Yourself Autosuggestion: Give yourself an appropriate autosuggestion. We always give ourselves autosuggestions during negative manifestations. They happen at the subconscious level and we are hardly even aware we are thinking negative thoughts. Later, as the manifestation has become a habit, these negative autosuggestions would become neuropathways. So give yourself a positive autosuggestion and repeat it as if you believe it.

Imagine: For the subconscious mind anything ‘known is pleasurable and the unknown is painful’. Which means it is reluctant to tread into the unknown. So make a positive manifestation ‘known’ to the subconscious mind through imagination. Imagine yourself going through the entire scenario in your mind. Combine positive autosuggestions with vivid imagination powerfully until it puts you in a positive frame of mind!

Maintain Consistency of Thought: This is important. You may find it difficult to maintain the same positive frame of mind at all times. But whenever that is happening go through the first three phases of belief (or pretense of it), autosuggestion and imagination. It is important that you maintain consistency of thought. During Negative Manifestations our belief, autosuggestion, and imagination are so consistent that it would be a miracle for the manifestation to fail!

Failure Manifestations: You CANNOT bend the will of others with manifestation. So if you are essentially trying to prevent your boss from giving you extra workload, you create a positive manifestation where your autosuggestion would be ‘I will move by my boss’s cabin peacefully and calmly. I will greet him cheerfully if he sees me.’ What you are doing here is influencing YOUR subconscious mind to take up the right mental expectancy and body language. This in turn will send the right message for your boss.

Give yourself positive sentences for Autosuggestions. If you don’t want to lose your temper at anyone, tell yourself ‘I will remain calm and understanding.’ A manifestation will fail if your autosuggestion is ‘I will not get angry.’

Similarly your imagination should involve mostly your actions and your frame of mind. If you feel somebody is trying to break the queue and go into the ATM machine unfairly, your autosuggestion should be ‘I will enter the ATM and withdraw the money peacefully and fairly.’

Start with smaller positive manifestations first. They are easier to believe and they will give you more confidence.

How we manifest our own troubles!

There are failures or obstacles in our lives that are situational and again there are failures in our lives that are our own doing. And we are responsible for more failures and issues in our lives than we realize. We create our own failures and issues in life without being consciously aware we are doing it. So how do we do it? We do it through the power of manifestation.

When our subconscious believes something it puts all its power to use to make that belief true. For example if your subconscious believes you are forgetful, it makes it true and we become forgetful. Similarly, if our subconscious believes your boss hates you and assigns you extra workload just out of spite, our subconscious will manifest it. It will make your boss hate you and give you more assignments.

But how can your mind influence your boss’s mind?

Let me show you by an example:

You are entering your office and you are passing by your boss’s cubicle. There is a glass partition and your boss is talking on the phone. As soon as you are moving past the cubicle, he happens to catch you out of the corner of his eye. He immediately summons you and assigns more work. How are YOU manifesting this?

Well, if your subconscious believes that your boss gives your work whenever he sees you then whenever you are passing by your boss’s cubicle you will be giving yourself autosuggestions that your boss will turn anytime and assign you more work (with or without you consciously knowing). Your body language automatically turns stealthy like a thief trying to escape. You try not to look at your boss but you watch his movements out of the corner of your eye.

Naturally, your boss’s mind will also notice a passing figure out of the corner of his eye. And when that figure appears to be moving with a thief’s body language, the subconscious becomes alert and your boss turns around. He calls you inside and immediately your body language becomes different. With all the autosuggestions you have given yourself, your shoulders will slump and your head tilts down slightly as if in surrender. Since the subconscious of your boss is telling you were slinking away like a guilty party, he will naturally feel inclined to give you more work thinking you were bunking some assignment.

When similar situations happen over time your boss will start manifesting the situation and it becomes a two-way feeding mechanism. When you are not slinking away, your boss’s subconscious is on lookout for you.

Another example could be our negotiations with Auto drivers, especially in cities like Hyderabad and Chennai. At times we become so frustrated with the cheating auto drivers that when we are hailing an auto, we are mentally prepared to get into an argument. So our subconscious mind tries to choose a guy who looks like a cheater. And after telling the driver our destination, we pause slightly waiting for him to give a price. This invitation is enough for the auto driver to start demanding more money and we have got our change to fight with him. Instead of simply going to our destination we spend our time getting upset and angry!

More serious issues are usually manifestations among family members. Wife subconsciously encouraging her husband to suspect her loyalty just because she believes his disapproval is a sign of his deep affection for her. Similarly, a mother waiting for her young daughter to sit very close to the television so she could admonish her. Manifestations between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. And the list can go on…

In the next post I shall write about how these manifestations can be changed and how you can even create positive manifestations.